so it started out as a hookup, but now i think she has the wrong idea. she's getting all lovey-dovey and that's not what i was in it for. thoughts on how to abandon ship without being a dick?

7/8/2008 10:55:52 AM

tell her you aren't emotionally ready for a relationship/commitment.

or just be honest.

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 10:57 AM. Reason : ]

7/8/2008 10:56:34 AM

too late to not be a dick... should have made things clear in the beginning.

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 10:57 AM. Reason : girls automatically assume you're into them unless you make it clear it's a hookup]

7/8/2008 10:56:54 AM

change your number

7/8/2008 10:57:03 AM

thats how it always works with me but i'm too nice to abandon ship and eventually fall for the girl...

It never works out when i'm interested 1st

7/8/2008 10:57:08 AM

Tell her the truth, that way you'll come off as a little bit less of a dick.

If you cry a little bit it will help too

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 10:58 AM. Reason : .]

7/8/2008 10:57:33 AM

do you want to do the right thing...or do you want to do what works?

7/8/2008 11:00:27 AM

Quote :

"If you cry a little bit it will help too "

tell her your confused about your life, and you're just trying to find yourself

7/8/2008 11:11:25 AM

~

7/8/2008 11:12:27 AM

i am in the same situation bro, and there is no way to get out of it without being a dick. you just have to accept that you are a dick, and move on.

7/8/2008 11:12:41 AM

do you want to do the right thing...or do you want to do what works?

7/8/2008 11:13:01 AM

yeah i assumed i would have to be somewhat of a dick to pull it off. telling her straight up about what I expected out of the whole thing is probably the most responsible thing to do

7/8/2008 12:04:55 PM

actually being a dick will only make her want you more....

being a dick really only works with a certain type of girl...

chances are she'll think it's something she's done and try even harder if you are an asshole to her...



if you want to run her off fast....act as gay and retardedly sappy as possible....get all into her and annoy her to death....

also....stop fucking her....act like you respect her too much for that or something....she'll get pissed that you aren't treating her like a piece of meat


that should work

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:17 PM. Reason : adfa]

7/8/2008 12:15:52 PM

haha, I met this girl and just wanted sexors, nothing else. We hooked up a couple times and the time came for dickie-dunking. I was putting on the condom when she said "I've never had sex with a man who wasn't my boyfriend, and that's not going to change. You need to decide now-are we having sex or not?" We did not, and I never talked to her again.

7/8/2008 12:15:53 PM

do what i'm planning on, leaving the state!

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:18 PM. Reason : ^]

7/8/2008 12:16:37 PM

nicely done.

7/8/2008 12:17:04 PM

^^^wow that is really really...yikes

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:17 PM. Reason : .]

7/8/2008 12:17:39 PM

Quote :

"We hooked up a couple times and the time came for dickie-dunking."

i always defined hooking up as dickie-dunking.

Is my definition wrong? i don't consider making out with a girl "hooking up."

7/8/2008 12:19:16 PM

yeah, that broad was crazy. All my friends called her "The Beast", she was 6'4" and had longer legs than me-I'm 6'5".

^By "hooked up" I meant getting stinky pinky, etc. The weirdest thing about her was that she actually asked me to fist her and she wouldn't have sex w/o the boyfriend tag.

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:21 PM. Reason : s]

7/8/2008 12:19:23 PM

Yeah, damn. You're married, right? What does your wife think about that?

I think that I would probably give my husband a hard time about doing something like that. I mean, I guess it was the right thing to do at the time, but still...

7/8/2008 12:19:46 PM

my friends and i are fans of using 'chewbacca' and 'juggernaught' when defining large girls

7/8/2008 12:20:50 PM

Chewbacca should be reserved for decidedly hairy girlies.

7/8/2008 12:21:46 PM

one of them is

7/8/2008 12:22:05 PM

swimfan

7/8/2008 12:22:55 PM

Quote :

"Yeah, damn. You're married, right? What does your wife think about that?"

My wife does not know anything about that broad. My wife was like 13 at the time I was hooking up with The Beast.

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:24 PM. Reason : d]

7/8/2008 12:22:58 PM

My husband and I are different because we were good friends for a few years prior to dating. I know about all the girls he's dated and hooked up with, not to mention all of the jerk off things that he's done to them. I like to give him a hard time about it on occasion.

7/8/2008 12:24:58 PM

Yeah, we kind of have a don't ask, don't tell unwritten policy.

7/8/2008 12:27:59 PM

Can't leave the state- I just got here.

Being a dick may end like LivinProof78 says it will, since things kinda started off that way

:crack:

aggravating...

7/8/2008 12:29:23 PM

You're screwed dude. Esp. if she knows where you live.

7/8/2008 12:31:32 PM

no matter how you end it, you will end up looking like a dick. even if you have told her all along that it would never be something, and that it was just sex. chicks have this part of their brain where they hear you say it is just sex, but somehow it translates into "it is just sex until I convince him to love me"

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 12:50 PM. Reason : d]

7/8/2008 12:49:50 PM

Quote :

": girls automatically assume you're into them unless you make it clear it's a hookup"

not true. hell i know that and i dont even have that much game, yo

7/8/2008 12:52:42 PM

Quote :

"so it started out as a hookup"

keep doing it till she gets it

7/8/2008 1:01:26 PM

^^^ not true! at least not for all girls. sometimes we're the victims here. the boy is all like "when we get married blah blah blah" or "we're perfect for each other blah blah blah" and the girl is like

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 1:01 PM. Reason : ^]

7/8/2008 1:01:37 PM

^ that is the point. if a guy is leading you on, that is one thing and he is an asshole for it. but if he tells you from the beginning that it is just a hook up, and you fall in love. it's your own fault if you get hurt



[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 1:03 PM. Reason : d]

7/8/2008 1:02:16 PM

^
tr00 dis

7/8/2008 1:03:10 PM

im glad no girls love me, i really dont have time to do that right now

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7/8/2008 1:04:58 PM

right but my comment was in response to

Quote :

"chicks have this part of their brain where they hear you say it is just sex, but somehow it translates into "it is just sex until I convince him to love me" "

so i was saying i've known many a guy that i could say this about. their fault either way but i'm just sayingggg sometimes it is the MEN that are the clingy lets make this into a relationship ones

7/8/2008 1:05:32 PM

but there are WAY more women that can't deal with a friends with benefits situation. WAAAAY more

7/8/2008 1:08:39 PM

Quote :

"at least not for all girls. sometimes we're the victims here. the boy is all like "when we get married blah blah blah" or "we're perfect for each other blah blah blah" and the girl is like "

Word. I ditched Josh's crazy ass because he was like that. Now, obviously, he eventually got me. But it is not always the wimmins who turn a hook up into something more. And if you keep bwning, they WILL get you.

7/8/2008 1:09:21 PM

Josh = DnL?

7/8/2008 1:11:14 PM

GOD NO!

sidphoenix
Never posts. Use to date two other TWWers who shall remain nameless.

7/8/2008 1:12:38 PM

^^^^ haha i agree i'm just saying

Quote :

"And if you keep bwning, they WILL get you"

lol

[Edited on July 8, 2008 at 1:13 PM. Reason : .]

7/8/2008 1:13:25 PM

im kinda in the same boat but i told her right from the start that i had just gotten out of a relationship, didnt want her to be a rebound girl but i would like to see where things go

we are 2 months in and i just dont feel the butterflies, my knees dont go weak and i generally dont miss her when she leaves.

on the other hand...im attracted to her, shes smart and funny and doesnt nag me about shit. i can see it in her eyes that she feels for me more than i do for her so i told her that. it was a rough few days for her but i told her i wanted to empower her in the relationship, be upfront and honest with her and give her the option of either sticking around, having fun and hanging out or go and find someone that can give you the same feelings.

i felt it was the right thing to do...maybe im wrong but i was very honest with her and even told her that im not sure if i can be her BF...she wants to stick around

7/8/2008 1:14:50 PM

ok i skipped a beat or 2 there

7/8/2008 1:14:52 PM

^^dude, she's gonna get your ass.

That's what they do. They hang around no matter what you say to them. They never go away. And before you know it, BAM!

7/8/2008 1:16:09 PM

listen to the "TheMommyBeast"

7/8/2008 1:17:04 PM

i doubt it...im fucking stubborn

7/8/2008 1:17:12 PM

haha see!! she's sticking around this is the point! you were honest and its like livinproof said. sometimes when your honest they think its something they did and will try harder.

7/8/2008 1:17:13 PM

yeah, i get that...i even tried to get around that issue by bringing up whats wrong with me and that she is great but i just dont feel it.

i even cut out the sex

7/8/2008 1:18:37 PM