I'm sure most sexually active people have dealt with this at some point. I'm kinda new to the game...

Being naked with someone is very uncomfortable for me unless alcohol or drugs are in my system. When I'm sober... things just seem slightly akward. I want to seem confident and carefree in bed... but I don't like it when he looks at my gut, love handles or other flaws that I notice.

It is a new friendship... we didn't even date... we work together and at a party we hooked-up...and thats all it has been....

How did ya'll deal with your body issues?

8/8/2008 9:41:54 AM

this is kinda similar, but when i'd go to the pool i use to be like that...then i realized everyone probably "thinks" that...if you and your person are enjoying yourselves it shouldnt really matter imo...obviously if hes with you, he could care less at what you think are "flaws"

8/8/2008 9:43:31 AM

I just slap him if he makes me feel uncomfortable.

But that might not work for everyone.

8/8/2008 9:44:02 AM

Ummm...Obviously if he slept with you, he thinks you're attractive and obviously doesn't think that you have any flaws. You shouldn't be self-conscious if guys want to sleep with you.

You could let TWW judge by posting pictures, though.

8/8/2008 9:44:36 AM

I wear a shirt most of the time. When I'm stretched out on my back my gut doesn't protrude as much, but my tits fall sideways (which is natural, just not how it looks in porn, so I still feel inadequate). Usually when we need to take care of business, it's just the lower business end of my body that's naked.

8/8/2008 9:45:25 AM

Maybe you should be comfortable with him before sleeping with him?

8/8/2008 9:45:38 AM

yeah i never got why cute girls thought they were not as cute as they are

8/8/2008 9:45:52 AM

^^^ Boo. I'm a visual person when I fuck chicks, I want to see them all nude. But I guess that's my preference. Usually if a chick trys that, I rip her clothes off in the process. Then she's all self-conscious afterwards and I'm like, why?

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 9:47 AM. Reason : ^^^]

8/8/2008 9:46:46 AM

this guy is out of my league.... he's muscular... tall... no fat anywhere....
and sometimes you just know when your partner is more attractive than you

8/8/2008 9:47:14 AM

cute != sexy

It's only when we find someone that doesn't doesn't mind how we look and communicates that to us when we are vulnerable (nekkid) that we'll develop self esteem and feel comfortable in our own skin, and not before.

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 9:47 AM. Reason : ^exactly]

8/8/2008 9:47:29 AM

just slap your fat titties in his face

it'll cure everything

8/8/2008 9:48:44 AM

^^it depends

in this case shes sexy too

8/8/2008 9:48:54 AM

Quote :

"Maybe you should be comfortable with him before sleeping with him?"

Ding. Ding. Ding.

Because:

Quote :

"Ummm...Obviously if he slept with you, he thinks you're attractive and obviously doesn't think that you have any flaws."

(With a note that even if he has noted your flaws, they don't matter to him). I outright asked my man last night "You LIKE it when I jiggle, don't you?!?!" And he got this sheepish grin and goes 'maaaaaaaybe '

Quote :

"this guy is out of my league.... he's muscular... tall... no fat anywhere.... and sometimes you just know when your partner is more attractive than you"

So???

Consider him a trophy: out of your league, but you still got some. Bragging rights, if you will.

8/8/2008 9:51:32 AM

women is pimpz too

8/8/2008 9:52:24 AM

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"sometimes you just know when your partner is more attractive than you"

[words]

I'd say that if you're gonna say this, then you are way too worried about your self appearance. I don't sleep with girls who I don't find attractive. I've slept with girls out of my league and they didn't seem to care if I don't have abs and am slim. I'm a runner, so I'm not that big. What I'm trying to say is:

If someone likes your enough to sleep with you more than once, it isn't all just physical attraction. Most of the time (one night stands and short flings being the exception) they guy is interested in you for more than your looks. If you're friends with this guy and have been for a while and slept together, he obviously finds you attractive in more than a physical way. I think that maybe you are really in to him and want to look perfect for him, which is flattering to the guy, but I don't think it really matters in the end unless he's that fucking shallow.

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8/8/2008 9:56:45 AM

I guess most of this stems from the fact that I don't know him well. We've worked together for over a year but we've never talked

he's overly analytical, silent, stoic type

8/8/2008 9:58:34 AM

lol you are overly analytical too imo

8/8/2008 9:59:31 AM

^^ Ok, I'm that way too. This means that it took him forever to build up the courage to talk to you and he thought about it a lot and probably planned out his every move to finally get somewhere with you. So, you definitely shouldn't be worried.

and ^

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 10:00 AM. Reason : yeah]

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 10:00 AM. Reason : Fareako just got surrious]

8/8/2008 10:00:00 AM

crackmonkey,

because I have seen you nude before, I feel comfortable saying this...

you have nothing to worry about

8/8/2008 10:01:26 AM

^

8/8/2008 10:04:15 AM

^
you were peeping through my windows??!

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 10:05 AM. Reason : ...]

8/8/2008 10:05:07 AM

^ Let me smash them guts and I'll let you know if you need to worry or not.

8/8/2008 10:06:01 AM

^^

8/8/2008 10:07:00 AM

peeping through windows?!?!

negro please...this is 2008...technology has advanced...I have cameras set up














also....you don't come around TWW very much anymore. This behavior needs to stop. I miss you

8/8/2008 10:10:01 AM

I have been dating my girl for years and she still is uncomfortable at times, regardless how much I tell her she is beautiful. You girls just need to quit thinking so negatively

8/8/2008 10:11:53 AM

I think you guys need to stop expecting women to be sane.

8/8/2008 10:13:36 AM

and the funny thing is .... he and I aren't having sex.... well not the penetration kind
I just don't do things usually unless theres an emotional connection.

he's the first guy to ever go down on me...
I try to be a good girl most of the time

8/8/2008 10:13:56 AM

Guys don't normally go down on ugly chicks. Unless they're really desparate.

Also, you seem very deprived of all things sexual. You need to expand your horizons by contacting me.

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 10:16 AM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 10:15:27 AM

Quote :

"Maybe you should be comfortable with him before sleeping with him?"

8/8/2008 10:16:18 AM

some of you people are really pathetic, superficial, self-involved, and slutty

carry on

8/8/2008 10:18:53 AM

Quote :

"I think you guys need to stop expecting women to be sane."

And this gem:

Quote :

"Guys don't normally go down on ugly chicks."

8/8/2008 10:20:04 AM

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"How did ya'll deal with your body issues? "

Cry myself to sleep every night.

Laugh in the face of anyone who tells me I'm hot.

Tell myself I'll have enough $$ for surgery to make myself hot in a few years.

8/8/2008 10:21:21 AM

everyone is at least a little uncomfortable with their body at one point or another. Like everyone said, you already got him in bed so he must be attracted to you. The sooner you let you inhibitions go, the better the sex will get.

8/8/2008 10:21:30 AM

personally, I attack my partner's personal flaws. That way, she's too concerned with what's wrong with her to worry about how I look

8/8/2008 10:22:25 AM

Quote :

"you seem very deprived of all things sexual. You need to expand your horizons by contacting me"

I was slightly dissapointed with my guys oral techinque... It wasn't as good as I've been told...
I wonder if sex will dissapoint as well

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 10:29 AM. Reason : ...]

8/8/2008 10:24:31 AM

^

8/8/2008 10:25:24 AM

Fareako will rock you world.


I give him mad props

8/8/2008 10:27:29 AM

^ <3

I only try really hard for the AZNs, though.

8/8/2008 10:30:36 AM

lena i think you psyche yourself out of pleasure or something

8/8/2008 10:34:11 AM

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"I was slightly dissapointed with my guys oral techinque"

I hear most guys are just okay or terrible at this. Don't worry.

8/8/2008 10:36:00 AM

this thread is more proof for message_topic.aspx?topic=533723.

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"Self Conscious About Something: This is essentially the cause of “Requires Compliments,” from above. But what women don’t realize is that, when a guy is with a girl, he thinks she’s hot. That’s a given in a guy’s mind, and doesn’t change much. So we completely forget that women, in general, are nervous wrecks of internal anguish. Usually, their fluctuating insecurity is about their bodies, which they say is a product of our cruel desire for them. (As if women are so kind to each other on this front…) Really, it’s about all types of stuff. So guys, if you take this fact of female existence to heart, it helps explain many of their womanly mysteries. (Not the g-spot one, though…)"

8/8/2008 10:41:42 AM

^^I've been told I'm good at it.

but then again, why would you tell someone they're bad?

8/8/2008 10:55:36 AM

i still want my movie back

8/8/2008 11:15:58 AM

Quote :

"I've been told I'm good at it. but then again, why would you tell someone they're bad?"

you know, me too...when you hear it from multiple women, you begin to think it's true...but then, i'm probably horrible at actual sex...you know, tiny pecker and premature ejaculation and all that jazz

gotta make up for it somehow

8/8/2008 11:31:22 AM

Quote :

"everyone is at least a little uncomfortable with their body at one point or another. Like everyone said, you already got him in bed so he must be attracted to you. The sooner you let you inhibitions go, the better the sex will get."

Hes right. I was kinda hooking up with this guy that I knew dated/ screw around with super hot women. Im not skinny and was nervious bout loosing my shirt and him being like WOAH!! haha I was overreacting it ended up being fine. I just had to tell myself the kid wasn't blind, so he knew I wasn't going to be thin and he must be ok with that. Plus, if you act self concious it draws attention to what you dont want them to notice. Its like sales, if your not confident in your product people arn't going to buy it.

8/8/2008 12:00:36 PM

one of jens best posts ever imo

8/8/2008 12:04:03 PM

what about frisby?

8/8/2008 12:05:34 PM

just work with what you've got and realize that guys are self conscious too. one of the great things about sex is that you're sharing in something that's intimate and both letting down your guard.

8/8/2008 12:30:24 PM

this thread is worthless with out nudes.
no but really, he has to like you for who you are ad if he cant see past your body it will never work

8/8/2008 12:31:08 PM

set em up

8/8/2008 12:32:01 PM