without sounding creepy?

I'm new to online dating (or at least attempting to find someone online) and have no idea what I'm doing (I'm a better communicator irl than online). I know there have been other threads about such things but I couldn't find them.

8/27/2009 1:36:42 AM

im gonna leave this one alone.

8/27/2009 1:37:42 AM

I dunno

avoid telling her how pretty she is, maybe

or how ugly

8/27/2009 1:39:50 AM

its gonna sound creepy no matter how good you are unless you're EMCE. just go for something quirky or memorable that you're cool with someone possibly taking as creepy and they're more likely to be interested and respond.

8/27/2009 1:40:39 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ge7mozA-ptI

this guy gives a pretty good tutorial

[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 1:45 AM. Reason : :]

8/27/2009 1:41:18 AM

Send that bitch a smiley

Bitches love smileys

8/27/2009 1:42:19 AM

tell her you want to stick your nose in her stink hole and smell what she has to offer. tell her you want her to slap your butt cheeks with her feet.

8/27/2009 1:43:37 AM

its a dating website. As long as you're interested in her, i don't think shes gonna care how you say, "hello, im interested"

just don't be stupid and say like, "hey, you seem good looking by your picture which may or may not be a 20 year old picture of your 3rd aunt. wanna bwn?"

8/27/2009 1:44:54 AM

^hahaha that might actually work

[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 1:47 AM. Reason : ]

8/27/2009 1:46:53 AM

Hey there !

I was just looking through profiles on here and yours really caught my eye, I see that you like (random bullshit here that you don't care about but will act like you care about to get laid)... I do too! I was just doing that with my (name her favorite animal here) and a couple of my friends and it was a blast. Tell me more about yourself! Do you... (ask some random bullshit questions).

Hope to hear from you soon,

Loverboy69.

GET YOU SOME.


(Don't include the previous sentence in your letter.)

8/27/2009 1:53:34 AM

Talk to your roommate. She'll probably give you some good advice. Is there not some kind of button you can click that will alert them that you are interested? If you are a better communicator irl, then get her comfortable enough to have a phone conversation. It should get better from there.

8/27/2009 2:10:59 AM

^I asked her for advice but she hasn't been single in almost year so she claims she doesn't know what single girls want to hear

8/27/2009 2:14:38 AM

HELLO MY FUTURE GIRLFRIEND


THIS IS WHAT I SOUND LIKE

8/27/2009 6:59:45 AM

^ahahahaa

8/27/2009 7:47:11 AM

LOL

8/27/2009 7:48:04 AM

tell her you're jewish.

8/27/2009 7:51:02 AM

8/27/2009 7:53:07 AM

Send this. Ask her which one she likes.

8/27/2009 8:10:01 AM

Although I am by no means the type of girl you would want to attract through this site, I'll give you some insight as to the type of emails that I have responded to/rejected.

BAD EMAILS

Quote :

"Subject: :0) Hey, Just wanted to say hi and see how you are. We talked in the past, but I'd like to reiterate my interest. You seem to be such a special girl, that even having you as a friend it will be a privilege. Look forward to hearing from you, - B"

Special girl? Okay, DAD. DELETE.

Quote :

"Subject: Hello How are you doing? This website says we are a match.....what do you think? Let me know if you are interested in talking / meeting. Thanks. Tony"

WTF. The website says what? It's a website. Make your own decisions. DELETE.

Quote :

"Subject: Hello! Hi! I hope you are doing great! Are you ready for the big FRIDAY??? I am very interested in making your acquaintence and believe that we are looking for many of the same goals in a relationship. I an a genuine, unique, and passionate man that wants to share my future with a great woman, that loves to enjoy life like me and with me. What's your favorite way to spend an evening after a hard day at work? How's that novel going? What's the title of your next chapter? I will not waste any opportunity that you give me! I hope that this email is not like all the others and creates a twitch in your heart. Lets talk! Sincerely, Eddie"

You want to make my acquaintance and cause a twitch in my heart? You caused a twitch in my gag reflex. DELETE

GOOD EMAILS

Quote :

"Subject: Not bored I had to send an email to anyone who climbs stacks of kegs! It seems like you have a great personality, from what I read. And since you like dogs so much, you can walk mine anytime! Hope you are having a nice week, talk to you soon. -Pete"

Funny! Success! Wrote him back.

Quote :

"Subject: Mule riding accident? Really??? Mule-riding accident? I was involved in an attack by a llama and a wombat onboard a transport plane that resulted in the end of my aviation career a few years back... LOL. Anyhow... I too seek out adventure, fun and comedy in life and liked your profile. If you like mine, I'd love to hear back from you! Oh and my name is Sylvan.... like the learning center, only better! "

FUNNY FUNNY FUNNY! What he did here is tell me why he liked my profile and then gave examples of why we might be compatible. I wrote him back and we went out last weekend and we're going rock-climbing this weekend.

I guess the key is to be CLEAR that you read their profile and to mention why you two are compatible. Don't grovel. Be confident. Make yourself seem like a match catch.

8/27/2009 8:38:30 AM

Quote :

"HELLO MY FUTURE GIRLFRIEND THIS IS WHAT I SOUND LIKE"

Haha, god damn that had me rolling. I gotta look that up again, if that business was still out there.

8/27/2009 8:42:59 AM

Quote :

"HELLO MY FUTURE GIRLFRIEND THIS IS WHAT I SOUND LIKE"

hahahahahaha

8/27/2009 8:44:10 AM

lucyinthesky wins this thread due to examples and reasoning.

8/27/2009 9:19:16 AM

"I'd be interested in sticking my finger in your belly button"

8/27/2009 9:23:54 AM

"thick penis and good at using it. email me back, thanks"

8/27/2009 9:27:11 AM

Quote :

"lucyinthesky wins this thread due to examples and reasoning."

8/27/2009 10:59:24 AM

lucy doesn't win at shit. she dated me once...

8/27/2009 12:21:26 PM

I honestly thought she was kind of overly touchy about petty bullshit that may or may not have told her something profound about the person, but that's how it is as a female on those sites I'm sure. As a guy you tend to do all of the initial messaging unless you're something extremely special or you happen to be a billionaire. Women have the pleasure of trashing all of those messages and laughing about it. It's interesting really.

But yeah, don't expect anything great out of those websites. Only the free ones are worthwhile (I've had some success there in the past oddly enough), but note that you can run into some really crazy people and you definitely don't want to give out too much info too quickly cause some people will fucking harass you for months and shit.

8/27/2009 12:26:28 PM

IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT
I GO WALKIN IN MY SLEEP
FROM THE MOUNTAINS OF FAITH
TO THE RIVER SO DEEP
CAUSE BAYBE THERE AIN'T NO MOUNTAIN HIGH ENOUGH
AIN'T NO VALLY LOW ENOUGH
AIN'T NO RIVER WIDE ENOUGH
TO KEEP ME FROM GETTING TO YOU BABE

You feeling this girl? Hit me up. Let's do lunch, k?

8/27/2009 12:27:32 PM

^^^ I never claimed to make good decisions. I'm simply giving an example of how I choose to respond to some messages over others. I don't have time to respond to all messages, so there must be some criteria for what to respond to/what not to respond to.

8/27/2009 1:30:22 PM

"hi, i saw you on this site and found you interesting. would you like to chat with me and get to know each other."

8/27/2009 1:32:02 PM

Quote :

"lucy doesn't win at shit. she dated me once..."

omgselfpwnt

8/27/2009 1:33:21 PM

^^ "Interesting" or "nice" are boring adjectives.

How about:

"Based on your pics, you seem like you'd be fun to hang out with."
or
"Wow, nice to see someone who also plays {insert sport}."

8/27/2009 1:36:58 PM

Quote :

"hi, i saw stalked you on this site and found you interesting fuckable. would you like to chat have sex with me and then get to know each other.""

[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 1:40 PM. Reason : damn]

[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 1:40 PM. Reason : space]

8/27/2009 1:40:05 PM

Much better.

8/27/2009 1:40:42 PM

Lucy, did you honestly ever reply or post on a dating website? You are an extremely attractive woman.

8/27/2009 1:40:44 PM

^^Pretty sound advice!

8/27/2009 1:42:01 PM

^^ Yes, I'm currently on match.com. It's fun. I meet guys in real life, but I thought I'd give Internet dating a whirl for the hell of it.



[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 1:43 PM. Reason : .]

8/27/2009 1:43:21 PM

so seriously, if you were on a dating site is this not exactly what you would want to hear if the guy sending it to you was slightly - to - somewhat attractive?

i feel like dating sites are for sexual desperation first and finding the right person second

8/27/2009 1:43:55 PM

Haha. Some girls are on there for the sex.

I'm on there for the entertainment and the possibility of meeting cool people. But it's seriously one of the most entertaining things I've done on the Internet.

8/27/2009 1:45:02 PM

yeah but if you are on there looking for entertainment surely a new sexual experience wouldnt hurt. unless you are one of those, "saving myself for the right guy" kind of girls. i think they have seperate dating sites though

8/27/2009 1:47:07 PM

ya lucy i think is pretty close there

don't say boring shit, be unique and stand out and u have a better chance of getting a response


i've been sending emails out to girls in charlotte asking them to go to the panthers game w/me and although they've all said no i feel like since they didn't block me or file a restraining order that it is quite the moral victory

8/27/2009 1:52:24 PM

Quote :

"Haha, god damn that had me rolling. I gotta look that up again, if that business was still out there."

you obviously didn't watch the video i posted at the very top of the thread then

8/27/2009 1:55:11 PM

You know what site sounds scary to me? jdate.com
Do virgins have vdate.com?

I'm not opposed to sex within a monogamous relationship, but when you're dating several people at once, sex is gross. Just my opinion. Some of my other friends do not agree and have sex with multiple match dates while juggling them all.

8/27/2009 1:55:23 PM

Beast to comment on something that you can infer or they seem to take pride in.

dont write a book, just enough to get them to read your profile.

Make sure your personality comes though

If you like video games, say it.

I also find its good to have somethign they can respond to.


[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 2:07 PM. Reason : dd]

8/27/2009 1:58:30 PM

http://www.positivesingles.com/

For people with AIDS.

8/27/2009 1:59:48 PM

i dont like the thought of having sex with strangers just to have sex. but i dont feel like you have to be in a titled relationship to be doin it. and yeah multiple people is not what i am referring to either. juggling isnt cool

8/27/2009 2:01:19 PM

If you have AIDS and fuck someone who has AIDS worse than you, can your AIDS get worse? Or can you get double the AIDS?

8/27/2009 2:01:57 PM

Quote :

"lucyinthesky wins this thread due to examples and reasoning."

Taking dating advice form Lucy is like taking life advice from a homeless drunk.

8/27/2009 2:02:15 PM

^^^ I didn't specify what kind of relationship. I simply said monogamous. That is, sex with just one partner. I think we're still in agreement.

^ That said, some homeless drunks offer great dating advice.

[Edited on August 27, 2009 at 2:03 PM. Reason : .]

8/27/2009 2:02:50 PM

i think they call that (AIDS)^2

and it actually starts attacking itself. your body will become worn down but eventually the AIDS^2 will go away

8/27/2009 2:03:10 PM