aww my little sis is hot haha

5/31/2008 2:26:28 PM

Is she single?

5/31/2008 2:27:10 PM

my bf and I started a running plan. he's not fat by any means, but we both want to be in better shape (plus he's trying to quit smoking).

exercise is a great hobby to pick up with your partner. it can be cheap, fun, and the benefits are totally worth it.

5/31/2008 2:27:34 PM

oh and DNL: the girls with fat arms usually drink a lot

that's what i've noticed. fat arms = alcohol's doing.

5/31/2008 2:43:02 PM

if I get married and she blows up I'm going to get divorced

I need her to be a positive role model

and I need to have sex cause the exercise is good for me

5/31/2008 2:45:44 PM

i'm gonna fatten my wife up and make her have tons of kids so no one else will want her


/the army way

5/31/2008 2:52:08 PM

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"oh and DNL: the girls with fat arms usually drink a lot that's what i've noticed. fat arms = alcohol's doing."

Where you accumulate fat is genetic. How much is environmental(Not necessarily alcohol).

5/31/2008 3:44:58 PM

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"If your spouse gains weight, you cannot make them lose it. "

But you can help them lose it by telling them that it's got to stop and that you will not do X until he/she loose Y amount of pounds. Example: I wont cut the grass until you loose 10 pounds.(or whatever)

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"And if you constantly harp on them about their weight, it can actually make things worse."

You shouldn't call them a fatass all the time of course. But yelling at them for eating empty calories or junk food.

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"Trust me"

Nah

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"The best thing that you can do is lead a healthy lifestyle yourself and encourage good habits."

Exactly.

5/31/2008 3:52:49 PM

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"But you can help them lose it by telling them that it's got to stop and that you will not do X until he/she lose Y amount of pounds. Example: I wont cut the grass until you lose 10 pounds.(or whatever)"

is NOT

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"The best thing that you can do is lead a healthy lifestyle yourself and encourage good habits"

instead it's being petty and manipulative

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 3:56 PM. Reason : aside from the fact that she can decide to cut the grass and not worry about your ultimatum]

5/31/2008 3:54:52 PM

maybe the no sex isn't due to a woman getting fat. MINUS the fact that she is the one who has to bear children and PROBABLY put on some extra weight, what with another human being growing inside her and what not.

but besides that, i can think of some unattractive male qualities that MAY lead to a decrease in sex:

balding
saggy, shriveled penises incapable of being aroused unless one ingests a pill to achieve a 5 hour boner.

SO HOT.

5/31/2008 4:54:29 PM

i dont get how dudes cant get their dicks hard...if you gotta take a pill you are gay

5/31/2008 4:58:48 PM

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"aside from the fact that she can decide to cut the grass and not worry about your ultimatum"

ya know that would help her lose weight.

StillFuchsia=fail.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 4:59 PM. Reason : f]

5/31/2008 4:58:53 PM

Quote :

"saggy, shriveled penises incapable of being aroused unless one ingests a pill to achieve a 5 hour boner."

5/31/2008 5:01:11 PM

i would normally say, this thread is shallow and rude because I hate the skinny v. fat debate...

but I agree with the whole healthy lifestyle thing.
I CANNOT stand walking through the store and seeing obese parents and their obese children lagging behind... I know a lot of it is genetic, and so on but there is ALWAYS something you can do to make yourself healthier.

The sex thing is true... if your partner gains weight to a point that is unattractive to the other- the sex will stop and the marriage will go down hill. This goes for non-married relationships too. Many people don't like to admit but this is NATURAL.

However, I don't think that being 'super skinny' is attractive either (esp in men; I like my guys with a little meat on them)... All in all, you should be healthy, whatever weight that is for your height and body.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 5:07 PM. Reason : 1]

5/31/2008 5:06:12 PM

I jogged 2 miles today because of this thread... assholes

5/31/2008 5:09:43 PM

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"seeing obese parents and their obese children lagging behind... I know a lot of it is genetic,"

You know? Hahaha. Do you honestly think fat parents who eat twinkies and hot dogs feed their kids vegetables and the kids are fat because of genetics?

5/31/2008 6:19:26 PM

^ enviroment definetly trumps genetics in this

5/31/2008 6:30:20 PM

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"instead it's being petty and manipulative"

That's true but it could work. Couples should respect their bodies and if a husband or wife is failing in that aspect the other should be there to tell them that something needs to be done. If constant positive encouragement isn't getting the job done you have to draw the line somewhere and say enough is enough. Just telling your spouse that they need to eat better and exercise doesn't always get the point across. You have to show them that you aren't going to put up with their disregard for their health and appearance. If the guy gets fat maybe he should do more housework than normal until he loses 5 to 10 pounds and vice versa. I only brought up doing chores as payment because it seems kinda easy anyways. It may sound shallow but if both people agree to keep the other in shape and healthy then I don't see the problem of calling the other one out on it.

5/31/2008 6:40:27 PM

Hahahah fun thread.... back up

This thread started because i needed to vent i had two friends that liked to bwn their relationship was filled with infidelity before they were married (although to the best of my knowledge its hasn't been since marriage) but you could see their in compatibility from a mile away.. well guess what their marriage sucks and on top of that the one thing they had in common is gone now cause neither is attracted to the other .



Now, i personally wouldn't have a problem with my wife gaining weight but, if she became fat.... We would have nothing in common.. I am an athletic person who likes to go camping hiking biking etc.. do you think my fat wife would do those things with me anymore? i don't see it. I'm not saying that i would move on if she gained 20-30 lbs but if she goes all pear shaped something is wrong... 1st off more than likely the "athletic personality" i would like to marry wouldn't end up this way unless something was messed up in her life anyway (be the marriage or something else). In this case they stopped caring for each other and he got fat cause he didn't care then she got fat almost out of spite i think and then they lost the last thing they enjoyed about each other.


Now hopefully i find a wife that is like myself, slightly competitive and we'll pick up the hobby of exercise and will push each other to stay in shape out of friendly competition.

Now just as i wouldn't leave her for being disfigured in an accident if something were to happen and s he got fat for a reason.... i wouldn't leave her but sheer apathy and laziness are two things i do not want in a partner and both are required for a drastic change in shape.

6/1/2008 9:13:44 AM

I'm going to stay single so I can work out and always want to stay fit just for myself.

6/1/2008 9:15:25 AM

wedding rings cut off circulation and make married people get fat, it's a fact

6/1/2008 9:16:16 AM

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"it's never ok to get fat completely inexcusable"

Quote :

"you are FAT waaaaaaaaaay before it starts causing you health problems"

Duke, I'd agree with you to an extent. Americans are too fat. I'd be the first to admit that even though I've lost a lot of weight in recent years and gotten in much better shape than I used to be, my failure to do better on that front is nothing so much as weakness of character.

However, I still think you're full of shit. Not everybody has to have a sixpack or 5% bodyfat to be healthy or attractive. If that's your cup of tea, fine, but you have absolutely no cause to call people out for failing to live up to standards that are simply not relevant to anyone but a tiny minority of models, athletes, and military personnel.

6/1/2008 2:04:18 PM

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"some coke-addicted skank girl who will just end up cheating on you"

epic

6/1/2008 2:30:06 PM

experience?

6/1/2008 2:31:30 PM

that epithet rings a bell... loudly

6/1/2008 2:33:24 PM

i wasn't going to comment on this thread at all because these threads always amuse me and i rarely take them seriously...

that being said....i've always struggled with my weight and in the past few years i really let myself go....and i was uncomfortable with myself...regardless of what anybody else said to me....

i took it upon myself to lose ~35-40 pounds....don't get me wrong...i'm still no small girl but i'm comfortable with myself again...and healthy...and happy....to the point where i never want to be where i was ever again....


that being said....even at my heaviest i was still in the mindset that i'm not physically attracted to men that are anything less than hot as hell and have great bodies....and was actually able to get away with it somehow...even though i'm not quite sure how that worked out....this probably explains the infatuation with young boys...

but i've realized recently that what i found important really isn't so much anymore....don't get me wrong...i still like those cute young boys....but i've found myself noticing men that i normally wouldn't have even glimpsed before....some very average...some a little less than stellar looking or heavier or whatever than before...

maybe it's age...maybe it's maturity....maybe i've just lost my mind...who knows...

so...i guess what i'm saying is that as long as i've learned to appreciate a person for who they are instead of what they look like then i guess i can give a little (or even a lot) in the physical appearance department....

but as for myself....i'm going to take care of myself for me...not for anybody else

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 3:36 PM. Reason : dfasdf]

6/1/2008 3:35:26 PM

I don't understand why people think it is ok to ever get fat. There are ways you can still eat what you like in moderation and there is always a need to exercise. Being unhealthy is never an option. I had a baby and I refuse to let myself get fat. I saw how my mom just let herself go and how miserable she was afterwards.

6/1/2008 3:48:50 PM

Quote :

"saggy, shriveled penises incapable of being aroused unless one ingests a pill to achieve a 5 hour boner."

6/1/2008 3:50:48 PM

Quote :

"even at my heaviest i was still in the mindset that i'm not physically attracted to men that are anything less than hot as hell and have great bodies....and was actually able to get away with it somehow..."

Jesus.

6/1/2008 3:57:47 PM

i know...i'm not saying i'm proud of it

6/1/2008 4:00:02 PM

I don't understand this whole phenomenon.


I can't imagine me suddenly bagging a man would make it ok for me to let myself completely go and not care what's in the mirror.


I can't imagine that people wouldn't want to keep themselves looking alright for themselves and their self esteem.

6/1/2008 4:07:25 PM

Quote :

"Dear people... stay attractive keep bwning enjoy married life."

Sex issues within a marriage usually have other causes than just physical attraction. it tends to come from general problems with the relationship

6/1/2008 4:16:10 PM

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"as much as I want to disagree with this argument, especially because I just got married a month ago and "love should be able to withstand petty shit" "

not true. my diet is minimal. small portions. i've prefected the small portion and water diet. my chick must detest food as much as i do.

6/1/2008 4:30:01 PM

I lived in Europe for two years, and its astounding how their non-reliance on refined carbs and proclivity towards saturated fats and proteins make everybody look like a supermodel compared to America. I'm honestly still pretty grossed out everywhere I go after having lived on several different continents.

So if you're talking about genetics or being more comfortable with your body, maybe you should get outside your comfort zone for a while and see what the rest of the world thinks about your disgusting flabby self

6/1/2008 4:38:23 PM

Mulva, you just made up for you banana nonsense.

6/1/2008 4:45:01 PM

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"i'm 5'11 and 128, asshat."

bullshit or eating disorder

6/1/2008 4:45:35 PM

Quote :

"it's never ok to get fat completely inexcusable "

concurred

Quote :

"Now, i personally wouldn't have a problem with my wife gaining weight but, if she became fat.... We would have nothing in common.. I am an athletic person who likes to go camping hiking biking etc.. do you think my fat wife would do those things with me anymore? i don't see it. I'm not saying that i would move on if she gained 20-30 lbs but if she goes all pear shaped something is wrong... 1st off more than likely the "athletic personality" i would like to marry wouldn't end up this way unless something was messed up in her life anyway (be the marriage or something else). In this case they stopped caring for each other and he got fat cause he didn't care then she got fat almost out of spite i think and then they lost the last thing they enjoyed about each other. Now hopefully i find a wife that is like myself, slightly competitive and we'll pick up the hobby of exercise and will push each other to stay in shape out of friendly competition. Now just as i wouldn't leave her for being disfigured in an accident if something were to happen and s he got fat for a reason.... i wouldn't leave her but sheer apathy and laziness are two things i do not want in a partner and both are required for a drastic change in shape. "

concurred... I like the point that "yes I will still love them, but not necessarily as attracted to them" I don't by ANY means expect my gf to be the size and shape she was when we first started dating nearly 3 years ago and she was 18... but I would be highly disappointed if she put on an extra 50lbs. We've worked a lot on finding healthy things that we both like to eat (still working hard on that one)... and encouraging each other to find/make time to go to the gym

I run very regularly and get at least 30minutes of cardio 3x's a week. To hear people complain that they are gaining weight when I know that they eat as much as I do (I'm 6'5 ~220 so I get to eat more ) and consider going to the gym for <20minutes, twice a week, sporadically at best a workout ethic... frustrates me greatly... but theres a line as to how much and how many times you can call them out on it.

6/1/2008 5:20:06 PM

Quote :

"People get fat and think its ok to get married"

6/1/2008 5:32:11 PM

^^
these responses are more accurate IMO.

I was a wrestler/football player/etc back in the day, so I appreciate physical fitness. I don't expect my gf/wife to be a supermodel. That's not a big deal. What I want, and I think a lot of the guys on here agree, is a gf/wife that keeps herself at least in decent shape not only for her health but because she wants to look good for me. I have no problem doing the same, in fact I'd want my partner to be physically attracted to me on top of the other aspects of attraction. Physical attraction itself is hardly a basis for true love, but it is one of the main reasons a very high percentage of couples even start talking to one another in the first place. Call it shallow or not, but a relationship where there is a sexual tension from physical attraction will be a happier one for a much longer period of time than the reverse. That level of attraction doesn't mean both parties are in greek-god shape, just that both parties have an appreciation for the same things (see: common health and physical standards and attractions).

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 5:36 PM. Reason : ]

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 5:37 PM. Reason : ]

6/1/2008 5:36:29 PM

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"UPPER ARM TEST"

aside from looking at the mother, look at the girls upper arms.......if they are a bit on the pudgy side, proceed to next girl

sounds silly, but all ya'll are gonna start noticing it now

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 5:49 PM. Reason : ]

6/1/2008 5:48:29 PM

They all get fat in the end

tr00 story!

6/1/2008 5:51:51 PM

6/1/2008 6:07:21 PM

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"lol at 55 i dont think anyone is "hot" anymore"

My mom is about to turn 53 and all my friends still want to bang her...without plastic surgery (then I just point to her former body-building husband and tell them to give it a shot). She went from college cheerleader, to overweight in her early forties. Then my step-dad left her and she picked up working-out as a hobby, became a licensed personal trainer in addition to being a teacher, and is now the best looking "older woman" in town.

Just from my preferences, I don't think I could ever date/marry a girl who could just "let herself go" in the first place. And as active as I am, I usually make the girls that I date feel really lazy when they're with me that they ultimately pick up their workout habits.

I'll let loose the slack after pregnancy...but I'm all for equality. And if the woman is putting in the same amount of time in the gym (or other outdoor activities) as I am, then I'll be happy (or less time if she's got great genetics).

Call me shallow...but the physical attractiveness has to be there, and if its not, then the sex probably won't be there either.

6/1/2008 6:38:52 PM

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"I jogged 2 miles today because of this thread... assholes"

utterly classic.


pics of jessiejepp on a scale and next to a tape measure are the only grounds I'ma believe 5'11 @122#

6/1/2008 6:47:22 PM

what's so inconceivable about that?

6/1/2008 6:52:57 PM

I'm 6' and when I was doing marathon training I weighed in at 135. it is possible.

6/1/2008 7:39:39 PM

for how tall jessie is, she has a really really skinny stomach and waist...i'd guess about 130 or so

6/1/2008 7:45:41 PM

wow thats insane.

another 15lbs and I will be extremely happy i hit a plateau though.

6/1/2008 7:48:02 PM

Maybe its just me, but the majority are fat before they get married.

6/1/2008 8:07:04 PM

the chick i marry has got to be fit and has to have decent genes

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 8:09 PM. Reason : no history of cancers, heart disease, warts, cold sores(herpes)]

[Edited on June 1, 2008 at 8:09 PM. Reason : etc etc]

6/1/2008 8:08:49 PM