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7/9/2008 9:25:56 AM

Okay, you can have your differences. After a day of trying to figure out how to do stuff no one else has before, it's nice to spend time with someone that doesn't annoy the shit out of me.

7/9/2008 9:26:01 AM

men feel the same way, which is why there are so many divorces.

-- zing! --

7/9/2008 9:26:48 AM

if she doesn't at least share my sense of humor, we aren't going to make it

[Edited on July 9, 2008 at 9:36 AM. Reason : a]

7/9/2008 9:27:40 AM

Agreed, most guys realize the shit they have to deal with isn't worth the poon they get once a month from their now frigid wife.

Shouldn't be a problem for me.

7/9/2008 9:29:05 AM

He can be quiet. I can be loud.
He's reserved and every word is thought through. I am out going and am constantly working on tact.
He's laid back. I can be high strung.
He's calm. I am emotional.
Humor is a bonding point. We are so intelligently witty!
He's more like "whatever" and I am an ANGRY person!! I can get mad at other people's blatant disregard for intelligent thinking.
He can be alone and I am a social butterfly.
Religion is a bonding point.
He is sooo technical and I am very artsy!
We bound on conversation skills.
Music is totally opposite. ( 311 and Offspring)


We are pretty much oppostie except where it really counts for us. I just think you have to be open to whatever when you are opposite!

7/9/2008 9:33:20 AM

I think it's important to have some areas of common ground, though where those areas fall differs from person to person. For me, I care about having the same financial priorities, some similar interests/hobbies and things like that. But on the other hand, our personalities are very different. I'm usually very nice and don't like confrontation, and he'll chase people down the street to yell at them. I'm a little self conscious, though much less than I used to be, and he has zero ego issues. I'm emotional, he's not ... stuff like that I can deal with being different, and I admire those traits even if I don't necessarily want to emulate them.

7/9/2008 9:35:31 AM

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"I admire those traits even if I don't necessarily want to emulate them."

i think you hit the nail on the head with that...

i admire and respect someone that has all the things that i am lacking...and i have a certain need to bond with a person that lacks the things that i have...

even if i'm not going to emulate those traits, sometimes an awareness of them helps me to curve some of the negative things about me that i tend to go over board with...

and a person who can figure out how to manipulate (not the negative meaning of the word) my strengths in order to help with their weaknesses can get just about anything they want from me...

case in point...

i don't crave attention (except on tww ) and i don't like people who crave attention for the sake of attention...so chances are you aren't going to get it from me if you try...I'm also not a needy person and I don't like needy people...BUT...i like to feel needed...so if a person that craves attention can genuinely make me feel needed then they will get all the attention from me they want...it's a win-win

[Edited on July 9, 2008 at 9:49 AM. Reason : sdfg]

7/9/2008 9:49:00 AM

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"He can be quiet. I can be loud. He's reserved and every word is thought through. I am out going and am constantly working on tact. He's laid back. I can be high strung. He's calm. I am emotional. Humor is a bonding point. We are so intelligently witty! He's more like "whatever" and I am an ANGRY person!! I can get mad at other people's blatant disregard for intelligent thinking. He can be alone and I am a social butterfly. Religion is a bonding point. He is sooo technical and I am very artsy! We bound on conversation skills. Music is totally opposite. ( 311 and Offspring) We are pretty much oppostie except where it really counts for us. I just think you have to be open to whatever when you are opposite!"

Thats exactly how my wife and I are.

7/9/2008 10:01:50 AM

a very good friend of mine is an EPIC introvert. He's back in school getting his master's, and uses it as an excuse to pretty much never leave the house except for class. His wife (another friend of mine) is an extrovert and very, very outgoing most of the time (aside from her troubles with meeting new people).
Anywho, I've known that (and a few other differences btw them) to cause some trouble in their marriage, but they also work very hard to get around that. They are still very much in love, and are willing to put in the effort to keep things together. I'm not sure if their opposing qualities are what originally brought them together- but they certainly aren't causing them to fall apart.

7/9/2008 10:12:39 AM

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"I think it's important to have some areas of common ground, though where those areas fall differs from person to person. ... stuff like that I can deal with being different, and I admire those traits even if I don't necessarily want to emulate them."

Yep. For me, I was attracted to my boyfriend even before I realized how similar we were. In fact, I didn't realize how much alike we were until earlier this year! Its been said already in this thread that being too similar can be boring...not for me, these things give us common ground for something to chat about that we can both completely understand. Still, we have our differences.

7/9/2008 10:26:10 AM

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"mother-fucking-signed. God, a woman who can hold her own in an argument is such a turn-on."

7/9/2008 11:27:45 AM

hmmmmmm...not sure how to feel about that one^


my initial thoughts were "the opposite of me would be someone that likes to argue" and "i wonder if people would consider me as someone that likes to argue"

7/9/2008 11:54:50 AM

it's not even so much about the act of arguing...

it's more about somebody making me feel something...and if the passion is there to invoke an argument then i actually care and feel something...

it's like music...i can listen to just about any sort of music but i only really like and appreciate music that can make me feel something...

7/9/2008 11:59:51 AM

i can think of at least like 7 or 10 things i'd rather do than argue

7/9/2008 8:51:44 PM

arguing can be a lot of fun when you're not actually angry

[Edited on July 9, 2008 at 8:53 PM. Reason : v and then there's that]

7/9/2008 8:53:00 PM

the only thing better than arguing with somebody you have the hots for is the angry sex you have afterwards

7/9/2008 8:53:03 PM

no i'd definitely rather just fuck a lot and not argue

7/9/2008 8:57:03 PM

i guess i just have a tendency to use sex as a weapon....

i don't use it as leverage by withholding it...


but i will use it to win

7/9/2008 8:58:50 PM

not always.

7/9/2008 9:02:07 PM

in the end i just feel like life goes on you know?

7/9/2008 9:05:13 PM

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"the only thing better than arguing with somebody you have the hots for is the angry sex you have afterwards "

You could get there a lot quicker if you just slapped the boyfriend really hard on the ass at random.

7/9/2008 9:22:57 PM

i'm just waiting for the day when i'm fighting with a guy and right in the heat of the argument i flash my boobs at him...

7/9/2008 9:24:31 PM

im just gonna go ahead and assume a paula abdul reference has been made already

7/9/2008 9:33:23 PM

yeah...JCASHFAN covered it on page one

7/9/2008 9:37:30 PM

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"He's 6 foot 5. I'm 5 foot 2. He's quiet. I am loud. He's reserved. I am out going. He's shy. I am well. . .not. He's laid back. I am high strung. He's calm. I am emotional. He's serious. I am silly. And on and on and on."

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"He can be quiet. I can be loud. He's reserved and every word is thought through. I am out going and am constantly working on tact. He's laid back. I can be high strung. He's calm. I am emotional. Humor is a bonding point. We are so intelligently witty! He's more like "whatever" and I am an ANGRY person!! I can get mad at other people's blatant disregard for intelligent thinking. He can be alone and I am a social butterfly. Religion is a bonding point. He is sooo technical and I am very artsy! We bound on conversation skills. Music is totally opposite. ( 311 and Offspring)"

All you said here was "He's a guy, I'm a girl". There's nothing here that stands out of the ordinary.


Other than common differences between guys and girls, my girlfriend and I have a lot in common and we get along just fine.

[Edited on July 9, 2008 at 10:18 PM. Reason : -]

7/9/2008 10:16:59 PM

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"All you said here was "He's a guy, I'm a girl". There's nothing here that stands out of the ordinary. Other than common differences between guys and girls, my girlfriend and I have a lot in common and we get along just fine."

Not really, I know lots of people that don't fit your female and male stereotypes.

7/10/2008 9:31:22 AM

^that is exactly what I was thinking.

7/10/2008 9:53:20 AM

i'm attracted to guys that are somewhat like me: outgoing, intelligent, sarcastic, kind of asshole-ish, educated, (somewhat) aggressive/confrontational

7/10/2008 10:12:47 AM