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7/16/2008 5:36:58 PM

I will punch one of my friends in the face if he makes me rent a tux for over $400....that's just ridiculous.

7/16/2008 5:45:33 PM

i'd just be like.... sorry i cant afford to be in your wedding
that's bullshit

7/16/2008 5:47:20 PM

i think i only have one or two friends close enough that they'd want me in their wedding

i think i'll have a little conversation with them and explain that they shouldn't expect me to be in their wedding if they do this

7/16/2008 5:52:20 PM

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"can someone explain the difference between a tux and a black suit? the shirt has a different collar and the tie is different. "

In addition to the satin buttons and satin stripe down the side of the pants. There's also the issue of lapel style. Most suits are notch lapels. Most tuxes are peak lapels, or shawl lapels. The notch lapel on a tux is not as fancy so to speak. Most suits are 2 or 3 button, while the tux jackets are typically one button.

As for the shirts you don't have to have a wing collar shirt with a tux. Most of the time now the tux shirt has a point or tennis collar. You also have pleats on the shirt. As for the ties, you can have formal ties, which are usually black, silver, white in color... or you do a bow tie, ascot, etc...

It's also for a similar reason that a gift should not be expected from the members of the wedding party as they have had to buy dresses or rent tuxes. And gifts should be given to them as a token of your appreciation.

[Edited on July 16, 2008 at 6:13 PM. Reason : ]

7/16/2008 6:12:09 PM

that gift would need to be some cash back in my tux pocket

7/16/2008 6:20:41 PM

and some pussy

7/16/2008 6:23:22 PM

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"the only problem with buying a tux is that you will almost never be able to wear it in a wedding and match everyone else. "

I take it you don't ever go to black tie events? I have at least one a year that will justify owning a tux.

Besides, the cost of a custom tailored tux isn't much more than a nice custom tailored suit.

7/16/2008 7:20:16 PM

thats out of control

weddings in general are expensive as fuck. makes me question if i even want one or if i want to go elope on a vacation and put the money toward something we can enjoy for years to come.

i seriously try wrapping my mind around spending $25k (the cost of an average wedding with a lot of do it yourself stuff) in ONE day and i can never make sense of it. i can hardly imagine $10k. $5k is more my speed and even that seems better spent somewhere else.

[Edited on July 16, 2008 at 7:31 PM. Reason : lol]

7/16/2008 7:31:02 PM

my mom and stepdad just got married and did the thing where you have to have 1 person to see it or something

they were standing near a brick wall in the one pic i saw

[Edited on July 16, 2008 at 7:32 PM. Reason : .]

7/16/2008 7:32:04 PM

eloping down at the courthouse?

7/16/2008 7:32:50 PM

i love you so much right now, wolfy

7/16/2008 7:33:40 PM

two of my best friends got married at the courthouse, i was the photographer* (using the term very loosely here)

knowing i have to pay for my own wedding makes me not want one. but if someone else insisted on paying i'm sure i could come up with the time to plan something reasonable. but as it stands, i'd rather save for other shit besides a wedding.

i think some people do it for the presents. i dont even need that shit, my whole place is already fully furnished and functional

7/16/2008 7:36:17 PM

first off how old is your friend and his fiance? What kind of jobs do they have do the groomsmen have similar jobs.

Basically it comes down to a decision do you tell your friend in his wedding because the cost is too high. Are you having to travel for this wedding. Are you staying in a hotel for one night, the whole weekend? Its a lot of money and a pretty big ripoff to expect to get that tux. See if you can get a look at the style of the tux and just rent the pants and jacket and shoes from Mens Wearhouse get the shirt/vest/tie from the place he is renting the tux.

Having been in 3 weddings 2 were Tuxes and 1 was a suit it is a bit of a burden but if you talk to your friend since he is your "Boy" that this is a big expense he may understand. Luckily my friends had some backbone to their fiances and told them what they were renting and both of mine were less than $125 and I already owned a black suit for the suit wedding.

I am assuming since the Tuxes are so much than the reception will be quite a blowout open bar and a live band and good food. And chances are the groom is probably getting his Tux for free thats the scam most places run.

7/16/2008 7:39:02 PM

hey dont forget the gift!!

and if you bring a date, costs just keep going up

def tell your friend the cost of the rental is prohibitive to your participation and while you'd love to be in the wedding, you'd also love to eat and pay rent.

if he doesnt understand or his future wifey cant make a compromise on the tux, attend the wedding as a guest, bring a gift and wish them well, no need to end a friendship over this (although guys are far less likely than girls to pull this shit-- which is reason #49847584 i stay away from weddings & just send presents)

7/16/2008 7:44:00 PM