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"Women are fucking odd."

10/12/2009 3:22:02 PM

dammit, for pg. 2


women on here might have better advice if they've actually heard that statement from someone

10/12/2009 3:22:35 PM

i've heard it because i have/haven't/or gained...it felt great every single time.

i especially enjoy hearing it after i just inhaled a milkshake

10/12/2009 3:23:59 PM

p.s. my statement does not include elkaybie

10/12/2009 3:25:14 PM

FINE! i'll be the exception to the rule

10/12/2009 3:26:26 PM

aha you sure do hate fat chicks poopface. did one sit on you in elementary school and steal your lunch?

10/12/2009 3:27:06 PM

yes

10/12/2009 3:27:40 PM

I've heard it.

Sometimes it's a compliment that I've lost. Other times people chastise me for losing. My dad, granddad and ex-boyfriend would say that I needed to eat more.

I'm never offended, whether it's a compliment or criticism. I feel better when I'm lighter.

10/12/2009 3:28:16 PM

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"^^I played the "guess my weight" game a few days ago and no one came close to getting it right. one of the contestants was a good friend so I knew he wasn't trying to flatter me. but yeah, I'd like to see if you could guess correctly. "

How tall are you? And give me a most recent picture that doesn't completely cover you up. I feel like I could get pretty close...but who knows?

10/12/2009 4:01:25 PM

^ Do me, too. I'm 5'7"

10/12/2009 4:03:52 PM

127

10/12/2009 4:04:50 PM

^^^^I think you touched on the problem (even though you're not offended).

It's just too many minds and mouths invested in the weight of others. A single instance can seem benign and complimentary (and for the most part, it is).

But when you put them all together and include the comments made behind the backs of women, they reveal society's pathological obsession with the too fat, too skinny, too muscular, never-perfect bodies of women: She's losing too much! She needs to eat more. She's losing weight, but she's doing it the wrong way--she'll only gain it all back! She's put on a few and doesn't even realize it--so sad to see a pretty girl let herself go like that. She's like forty pounds heavier, but she just had a baby so it's "understandable." She lost weight, but she really needs to tone up now. She's kind of fat, but she's really strong too, and you know I like 'em thick!

So I believe we should make no comments at all. It really, really, really shouldn't be anybody else's business.

I've gained and lost a large amount of weight over the years. I'm currently on my most successful losing stint (rebounding from my most drastic gaining period). I've plateaued at about thirty pounds overweight, and the "compliments" are pouring in over and over again from the same people...basically, "you lost so much weight and you're starting to look good, but I still don't approve of your body size so each time I see you, I'm going to compliment you and encourage you to lose more so you can finally conquer your weight battle (and fit in with what I think you should look like)."

One comment, a simple observation, is technically fine, but I want to move away from comments entirely.

[Edited on October 12, 2009 at 4:14 PM. Reason : sss]

10/12/2009 4:13:48 PM

I think when there's an obesity epidemic in this country, we do need to remind people that being morbidly obese is not okay.

10/12/2009 4:15:10 PM

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"Do me, too. I'm 5'7""

Tall girls are tough. You're lean but got a nice little booty and some muscle. 119?

10/12/2009 4:21:57 PM

Yeah a guy here made a big deal when he went from 42 to 40 inch pants

Its like dude, you're five nine...still a waaaaaaaays to go

[Edited on October 12, 2009 at 4:25 PM. Reason : and she looks bigger than that...I'll say 125]

10/12/2009 4:22:01 PM

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"wow you look good"

That's the only safe route to take.

10/12/2009 4:24:56 PM

Bridget: I think we all know women who have gone overboard in an effort to be thin based on careless comments from others. I had two ex-boyfriends tell me that I'd be soooo much prettier if I were just 20 lbs lighter. I've had some say I needed to gain weight and grow some bigger boobs. Funny thing is, I would never dream of telling a guy whether or not he should lose/gain weight. I think women are judged more harshly.

And I'm at 127 right now. God, you win. I'll prob be back down to 119 or 120 by the time of the Disney marathon, simply for the sake of speed.

10/12/2009 4:36:26 PM

^ Wow. You dated some douchebags.

10/12/2009 4:40:51 PM

^^Yeah, it's crazy!

And I didn't mean to direct all that post at you, by the way. Just tryna get a jump-off point.



[Edited on October 12, 2009 at 4:41 PM. Reason : ]

10/12/2009 4:41:04 PM

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"It's just too many minds and mouths invested in the weight of others."

Most men could care less about a woman's actual weight. It is women who are obsessed with the number on the scale.

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"But when you put them all together and include the comments made behind the backs of women, they reveal society women's pathological obsession with the too fat, too skinny, too muscular, never-perfect bodies of women"

Most men are happy with a woman who knows how to dress for her figure and carries herself with confidence. Of course, the genetic rules for sexual attraction always apply, but I've dated women of all shapes and sizes and my primary consideration when dating them was 1) their intelligence and 2) their appearance as a representation of their care of their bodies. That is about it.

Yes we're hyper critical of insanely attractive women portrayed in magazines, but largely because of a subconscious attempt to justify our epic inability to complete our biological imperative of inseminating these women.

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"I think when there's an obesity epidemic in this country, we do need to remind people that being morbidly obese is not okay."

For once, I agree with God. There is this weird societal schizophrenia between trying to be accepting of all body types but lamenting the plague of obesity.


Personally, I encourage the women I know to ignore the scale and try to live as healthy as possible.

10/12/2009 4:46:57 PM

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"And I'm at 127 right now. God, you win."

I'm that good.

And on the weight issue, I wish my girlfriend would say something. I constantly ask her what areas she thinks I need development on, etc., but she just says I look fine. No, I don't, damn it. Tell me to go lift weights.

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"confidence."

THIS is key. There's nothing worse than a woman who constantly verbally laments about her figure. Shut up and go lift weights and stop complaining.

10/12/2009 4:50:53 PM

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"I've dated women of all shapes and sizes and my primary consideration when dating them was 1) their intelligence and 2) their appearance as a representation of their care of their bodies. That is about it. "

I agree with JCASHFAN here. I respect men who value physical fitness. Not looking for a meathead, but I try to eat healthy foods and exercise, and I like to date men who have a similar lifestyle.

10/12/2009 4:54:36 PM

what about guys who didn't use to value fitness and were fat but have since changed their ways and work hard even though they haven't quite gotten to that perfectly trim body yet??

10/12/2009 5:07:53 PM

JCASHFAN, you're right that women are the biggest perpetrators of this bullshit...but you can't deny society's influence by merely pointing out that you are attracted to all body types.

10/12/2009 5:07:57 PM

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"but you can't deny society's influence"

I don't. But society is part of being a human being, like it or not.

10/12/2009 5:14:51 PM

I think BridgetSPK needs a hug.

10/12/2009 5:20:49 PM

it'd be nice if people weren't always so self-conscious/ready to pick apart what other people say

10/12/2009 5:34:57 PM

i recently (like in the last 4-5 months) lost enough weight to warrant new clothes

i definitely got comments from the men i work with (i work with mostly men, the two women i ever come into contact with said something too). its not like i was a fatass before, i just trimmed up and since i'm pretty short, it is easy to notice

its funny how some of the men approached it. one was like "wow what have you been up to lately?" and the other guy standing next to him said "you look great, how much weight did you lose?" i didnt take offense to either.

2 weeks ago at a meeting where everyone was someone i hadn't seen in 6 months, at least 2 different men directly commented on how great i looked. another one chimed in once i confirmed the weight loss and said he noticed but was unsure how to compliment something like that.

its not like i lost 50lbs, i lost 12-13 which is definitely an accomplishment but i didn't expect people to notice the way they did

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"I'll prob be back down to 119 or 120 by the time of the Disney marathon"

!!!! omgomgomg i want to do this SO BAD

[Edited on October 12, 2009 at 8:28 PM. Reason : klsjdfkjdsf]

10/12/2009 8:26:39 PM

^yay!

10/12/2009 8:30:26 PM

I lost weight recently and everyone at work commented on it and it made me However, now they say shit like I'm too skinny which makes me because I'm not.

Lots of emotions in this poast

10/12/2009 8:33:24 PM

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"GROPE THE HANDLES"

10/12/2009 8:34:31 PM

Chicks can't win ITT.

10/12/2009 8:36:05 PM

Begonias, I'm guessing 160

10/12/2009 9:10:06 PM

more

10/12/2009 9:44:55 PM

the statement "you used to be a lot fatter" never seems to go over as well as telling them they look like they've lost weight.

10/12/2009 9:49:37 PM

^^ i don't believe you

10/12/2009 9:53:09 PM

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"basically, "you lost so much weight and you're starting to look good, but I still don't approve of your body size so each time I see you, I'm going to compliment you and encourage you to lose more so you can finally conquer your weight battle (and fit in with what I think you should look like).""

Haha wow...relax, no one cares that much about how you look. People see you are thinner and mention it to be nice.

10/12/2009 9:55:48 PM

BELIEVE IT

10/12/2009 10:18:23 PM

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"i lost 12-13"

no guy is going to notice a 12-13 lb difference, they're just being nice because they wanna fuck you

10/12/2009 10:24:03 PM

cool, my post finally got referenced.

10/12/2009 10:47:54 PM

I got called fat the other day. Granted i have gained about 8 lbs but mostly muscle. I didn't take huge offense to it. I'm a guy so if i get fat and someone tells me i just go workout. No reason to freak out

10/13/2009 12:38:41 AM

^^^ 12 - 13 pounds is significant on a short woman. It's even relatively noticeable on a taller one.

I would never be offended by a comment about losing weight, but I do get kind of irritated when it comes from my weight-obsessed family. Whenever I go home the comment (unless I've ballooned up to the point where it's blatantly a lie) is always, "Wow, you've lost weight!". I know they say this because it's what they want to hear themselves, but it's kind of sad. (BTW, this happens even when I've gained 10+ pounds )

That said, I've lost 10 pounds, where's my cookie?

10/13/2009 1:04:59 AM

okay, then...180 lbs. that's my final answer.
i thought you looked closer to my sister's size, but i guess i was wrong.

10/13/2009 1:33:52 AM