You shouldn't have friended her in the first place.

It's always really obvious who wins the break-up.

Whoever freaks out and starts doing crazy shit like; joining dance competitions, or putting themselves on youtube, or dyes their hair red, or just does insane shit to get attention, is the loser. The person that doesn't really seem to change at all after wards, automatically wins, despite the formalities.

[Edited on October 16, 2009 at 4:47 PM. Reason : -]

10/16/2009 4:46:42 PM

Maybe the definition of 'friends' is what's lost.

I'm aquaintances with some of my exes. I wouldn't hang out with them for extended periods of time, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual. I'm certainly not friends with any of them. Friendship I take seriously. lol

10/16/2009 4:46:47 PM

I've banged girls who I still hang out with, but none were anything close to a serious relationship

I actually relate to girls better once I've banged them because all the sexual tension is gone

10/16/2009 4:52:59 PM

there's nothing to gain from being friends with an ex post-breakup. the fact that you downgraded from relationship to friends just ruins the mindset on everything. thats why its always good to have other female friends because at least you don't have that history to worry about.

10/18/2009 2:23:14 PM

A few weeks ago my ex broke up with me, and then threw a bbq to which I was not invited. I stupidly sent her a text asking if I could come, and she said it was really rude of me to place her in such an awkward position. I asked if she could at least tell me why she hadn't invited me, and she replied that she didn't have to justify herself. Then I texted her saying it was rude of HER to invite a bunch of my friends to a bbq and not even tell me about it. She didn't reply. Then I texted her again and apologized, asking for a word of comfort. She didn't reply. So I left her the fuck alone for awhile.

Then, a week later, I seemed to gather from her Facebook statuses that maybe she was interested in getting back together. So I called her on Sunday night around 10:30, and asked her if it was really over. She said yes, it's been over since I broke up with you. Then I said okay, we'll I'm gonna remove you from my Facebook friends, but there's nothing personal in it; it'll just be easier to get over you if I don't have to see what's going on with your life. She hung up on me. Then I sent her a Facebook message saying thanks, I needed that, I had some hope but now it's dead and I'm ready to get on with life. Then she sent me a message saying "Don't contact me again, you've really creeped me out, I don't want to be your friend, I'm sorry our story had to end this way, I hope you have better luck in future relationships" and then defriended me. I've left her the fuck alone since then, and been depressed, and my life sucks. Joy.

10/18/2009 5:13:05 PM

dumbass

shouldn't have said a word to her. 98% chance she would have came crawling back.

10/18/2009 5:16:07 PM

I was very inexperienced in these matters
and it's hard to be all cool and calm when you're in love with someone and they've broken up with you
undoubtedly I should have left her alone, but I don't think she would've come crawling back

10/18/2009 5:20:44 PM

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"there's nothing to gain from being friends with an ex post-breakup. the fact that you downgraded from relationship to friends just ruins the mindset on everything. thats why its always good to have other female friends because at least you don't have that history to worry about."

qft. it just makes things awkward.

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"and it's hard to be all cool and calm when you're in love with someone and they've broken up with you"

i feel your pain, man

10/18/2009 5:25:54 PM

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"I actually relate to girls better once I've banged them because all the sexual tension is gone"

True story.

10/18/2009 5:25:58 PM

My last ex engaged in stalkerish behavior for awhile. It took moving to another country for it to stop

10/18/2009 5:50:37 PM