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also, you can reflect that at least a bad ass person loved you for a while, and nobody can take that away from you

10/21/2009 8:13:15 PM

i guess that's a pretty damn good way of looking at it

10/21/2009 8:13:47 PM

10/21/2009 8:15:00 PM

Yes. Lots of booze and sex is key. Get those endorphins pumpin. That's the key to happiness!

10/21/2009 8:15:02 PM

in my experience, my head wins over my heart every time....if its not meant to be you'll soon realize that its pointless to keep holding on and its only doing you more harm than good. "Love" can make ppl loco....esp me.

10/21/2009 8:15:22 PM

concentrate on doing something new and being awesome at it

I decided to train for a marathon

10/21/2009 8:54:38 PM

I joined the marines to get over my ex. There's like 35 men to 1 woman.

10/21/2009 8:56:51 PM

LOL...wow

please tell me that was not the reason for joining the marines (to get away)

10/21/2009 8:58:20 PM

the only cure all is time and everyone grieves the end of a relationship differently

you could use it as a chance to reexamine yourself and take a new perspective. try something you'd never do before or take a big risk. take that piece of your life that person used to occupy and replace it with something else. something new and something productive, even if its selfish.

excercise is always good but if you're depressed its hard to go. i dont recommend drinking or banging randoms. just focus on yourself and dont burden your friends with your drama too much. they'll listen for awhile but no one wants a debbie downer. get it out of your system then move on and as mentioned before, remove the person from your life. thats actually pretty extreme and most people aren't able to do it.

MOST importantly, at some point you have to pin point what the problem was and make sure to avoid it in the future. or at the very least, be more apt at identifying it in another relationship.

ive never done this but i always think about it later. you could journal your feelings then stow it away and come back in a couple of years and crack yourself up at how drama the whole thing was and how stupid it seems now.

10/21/2009 8:59:00 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pp5eBxU248Y

Stephin Merritt, the singer/songwriter, is a homo too

10/21/2009 9:00:12 PM

I've been dumped so many times it doesn't really affect me anymore.

10/21/2009 9:04:20 PM

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"concentrate on doing something new and being awesome at it I decided to train for a marathon"

i really like this idea... i've always wanted to do a marathon.

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"remove the person from your life. thats actually pretty extreme and most people aren't able to do it."

yeah, i don't think i can do that quite yet... although i know it would be much easier if i did.

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"you could journal your feelings then stow it away and come back in a couple of years and crack yourself up at how drama the whole thing was and how stupid it seems now."

this sounds interesting too



really, what i think i need are friends who will just force me to go do shit and drag me out of the house, but i don't think i have any friends like that, haha

10/21/2009 9:32:39 PM

ehe, carl posted as me in this thread

10/21/2009 9:35:20 PM

I used to cry a lot and would try to get drunk but that never worked. I guess I just always cut them off completely so that I don't have to be reminded of rejection. I would gradually try to become friends once enough time had passed to heal my heart. If they wanted to be my friend, they would respond.

[Edited on October 21, 2009 at 9:40 PM. Reason : the amount of time for the healing would vary and also how it ended would vary the time.]

10/21/2009 9:38:58 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FZwVjys2bQI

10/21/2009 9:47:33 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=at8V7sgIdTg

better john mayer song

10/21/2009 9:49:37 PM

It takes me so long to get over somebody...I don't know why I ever get involved with anybody. Time is the ultimate healer, but you really do need healthy distractions; otherwise, empty time just makes you crazy.

Breaking off all contact is the only way to go. Still, there will be reminders. Best to make them few and far between. Hell, I still think about my ex wife and feel pain about where shit went and how it all ended. I can honestly say I worry about her and care for her, but I don't want to see her.

The first steps, the first day, week, month...they're the hardest by far. Don't be weak and give in to your inner scared child.

10/21/2009 9:57:04 PM

Just don't let him take advantage of the fact that he knows you want to still be with him. He will probably end up calling you at 4 am wanting a ride or something knowing that you'll give it to him just causeyou wanna be around him.

10/21/2009 9:58:29 PM

time and space

10/21/2009 9:59:11 PM

I find it's always helpful to secretly inject them with a vile of hooker blood

the threat of AIDS keeps me from temptation

10/21/2009 10:25:43 PM

JeffreyBSG has it down:

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"there's no cure but time take it day by day, indulge in your passions, hang with your friends, talk when you need to talk, and be sad when you need to be sad"

10/21/2009 10:32:18 PM

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"I joined the marines to get over my ex. There's like 35 men to 1 woman."

Haha, my ex joined the army to get over me.

She's got 2 bastard kids now.

10/22/2009 3:38:05 PM

just never speak to them or associate with them in any manner for a few years


it all goes away by then

[Edited on October 22, 2009 at 3:41 PM. Reason : then when they want to have sex with you 4 years later you can just laugh at them]

10/22/2009 3:39:49 PM

Since Time cures all wounds, follow the below steps to minimize pain:
Clean Break.
Date.
Profit.

[Edited on October 22, 2009 at 3:43 PM. Reason : -]

10/22/2009 3:40:52 PM

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"Success is great revenge. So is happiness."

indeed

10/22/2009 3:45:07 PM

You really want to get to a point where you wish for their happiness and do not seek revenge. That is when you know you have fully recovered. However, in the early stages after the break-up, having a lot of financial success definitely makes it easier to handle. Especially when you know you make a lot more dough.

[Edited on October 22, 2009 at 3:52 PM. Reason : -]

10/22/2009 3:47:38 PM

Tell me what it takes to let you go
Tell me how the pain's supposed to go
Tell me how it is that you can sleep in the night
Without thinking you lost everything that was good in your life to the toss of the dice?
Tell me what it takes to let you go.

10/22/2009 3:48:16 PM

I should keep reading threads like this to remind me why it's so great to NOT be in a relationship.

10/22/2009 3:58:41 PM

Smoke a bowl

10/22/2009 4:02:14 PM

well, ill tell you the last thing you'll want to do

and that's beat off a lot while thinking about them

10/22/2009 4:06:03 PM

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"so how do you people get over someone "

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"Tell me what it takes to let you go Tell me how the pain's supposed to go Tell me how it is that you can sleep in the night Without thinking you lost everything that was good in your life to the toss of the dice? Tell me what it takes to let you go. "

no shit, you listen to crappy music too?

10/22/2009 4:07:37 PM