Did you throw it out the window too??

5/7/2010 1:28:14 PM

nah it's on the porch

I'm not that mean

5/7/2010 1:29:26 PM

Oh well that's nice of you

5/7/2010 1:31:57 PM

Joie's going to be itching to move in now

5/7/2010 1:34:30 PM

my plan to steal her away from cody has gone in to MAXIMUM EFFORT mode

watch out d7freestyler, the day is mine!

5/7/2010 1:36:26 PM

^ I'm sure he'll be okay. He still has JT

5/7/2010 1:37:27 PM

My sister who didn't move in with her boyfriend is still married. My sister who let her boyfriend move in with her before they were married was separated less than a year after they were married.

5/7/2010 1:46:44 PM

Friend of mine had the following idea: living with a woman would be ideal if you had other room mates AND you had separate rooms. Not that you'd necessarily STAY in separate rooms, but it's the same principle behind having separate apartments; the other room is there, so it's a psychological out. Plus there are other room mates around to interact with, forcing some external social interaction. It also makes you peers in another sense, as room mates in a house with other people. Seems like that may diffuse some of the tension and staleness from shacking up.

5/7/2010 2:12:52 PM

^^and you are creepy and will never convince a woman to live with you of her own volition.

so you really have all the bases covered in your situation!

5/7/2010 2:29:25 PM

After dating for a while we roomed together for summer session courses on campus, and it worked well so we continued on like that, and eventually got an apartment together. It made things easier in a few ways I think. First, it was a trial run with a set deadline of a single semester at a time so there wasn't a lot of pressure. And when you are still living in the dorms you don’t have nearly as much stuff to merge.

By the time we had moved into our second apartment together (now that we’re both in grad school), now that we’ve collected all the stuff one leaves stored with their parents during dorm life, now that we bought together the stuff needed to furnish an apartment, and now that we’re married and have all the stuff that comes along with that, the process of merging stuff and lives seems to have gone at a very workable pace.

I suppose it worked well, we’ve been married for a little over a year, and been together for a little over 7 years.

5/7/2010 2:32:13 PM

statistically, living with someone before deciding to marry INCREASES the correlation with divorce.

Quote :

"The data show that those who live together after making plans to marry or getting engaged have about the same chances of divorcing as couples who never cohabited before marriage. But those who move in together before making any clear decision to marry appear to have an increased risk of divorce. ... Differences "are there, but they are not huge," says statistician Bill Mosher, the report's co-author "

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2010-03-02-cohabiting02_N.htm

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 2:51 PM. Reason : ]

5/7/2010 2:48:47 PM

and correlation = causation, obviously

5/7/2010 2:50:42 PM

Quote :

"and correlation = caustration, obviously"

5/7/2010 2:51:53 PM

^^ but surely blind speculation and anecdotes are the true measure

5/7/2010 2:52:18 PM

OH SHIT SON

I'M LIVIN ON THE STREETS THIS WEEKEND

5/7/2010 2:53:47 PM

Dickless in Raleigh

5/7/2010 2:54:22 PM

^^ at least she was nice enough to put your stuff on the porch.

5/7/2010 2:54:42 PM

It probably has more to do with the values of the people who refuse to live together without marriage. People who are not willing to live together before marriage are likely conservative enough that they also do not believe in divorce and will stay in an unhappy marriage because of their values. If you're willing to "live in sin," you're probably not morally opposed to divorce. I doubt that the simple act of living together prior to marriage that increases the likelihood of divorce.

5/7/2010 2:55:25 PM

Aw, I thought you were talking about his dick son.

You just meant his stuff.


For a moment I thought she had gone and VG-10'ed his cock off son.

5/7/2010 2:56:08 PM

^^ding ding ding

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 2:58 PM. Reason : ]

5/7/2010 2:58:06 PM

I'd be interested in seeing the numbers for living together and divorce amongst college educated couples.

5/7/2010 5:52:15 PM

I live with my gf. We have separate rooms because we're on totally opposite schedules and it works out great.

5/7/2010 6:00:03 PM

i lived with the ex for a couple years. it was more us being completely wrong for each other that ruined the relationship, and living together helped speed up the realization. or drug it out. not sure. hmm

5/7/2010 8:51:57 PM

women are crazy

5/8/2010 7:51:15 AM

My wife and I:

- "lived" together for about 1.5 years; she maintained a separate residence, but spent all her time at my place. This started soon after we met (within about 2 months).

- Lived apart for about 1.5 years (I moved away).

- Moved in together for about 6 months.

- Got married.

- Still living together 3 years later.

5/8/2010 7:58:10 AM

gonna make the move in august

5/8/2010 8:01:31 AM

I will say that moving in together is significantly different than just spending all your time at your s/o's place.

5/8/2010 8:04:50 AM

The two times I lived with a boyfriend it was crazy circumstances that brought it about.

One time it ended horribly and the other time it ended in marriage

5/8/2010 8:12:13 AM

Moving in together is waaaay dif than spending all your time @ someone's house. Living together is a long-term commitment. Spending the night is a day-long commitment.

5/8/2010 8:19:12 AM

my wife and i never 'officially' lived together before we got married although for the three years prior to getting married we almost always stayed together. When Agent 0 and I were roommates, I think I may have only slept at our apartment like 4 or 5 times that entire year.


but, i still think living together is a bit different than that. I'm not necessarily opposed to it, but I didn't really see much benefit in living together before marriage anyway. Works for some, doesn't work for others. There's no magic formula here.

5/8/2010 8:24:19 AM

I was highly opposed to living with a bf. Then my house got robbed and I was afraid to be at home by myself and started hanging out at his place all the time. A week later, he asked me if I would get a place with him. I said no, and he threatened to break up with me.

I freaked out, bc I was still too scared to be by myself at home (the breakin was scary). I told him I needed more time to think about it, but then I said sure, but I knew it was the wrong decision. I knew he wasn't the right one for me in the long run, but I said yes bc I was too terrified to be at home alone.

We lived together for a bit over a year. It was fun, but ended badly. Lesson learned, don't move in with someone if you don't think it will work out in the long run.

And if you can't stand the thought of being alone, just see a therapist instead.

5/8/2010 8:31:50 AM

^ haha sounds like true words of advice

5/8/2010 9:04:11 AM