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[quote]how about you learn to live your own life without wrapping yourself so tightly around someone else's that you strangle the shit out of them and make them want to move to Boston and marry some other guy


that may sound harsh as shit, but some of us have been there and that's pretty much what you've done and will continue to do if you keep putting people on a pedastal


just live your own life and add someone to yours, don't let their life become yours

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i'm going to go ahead and add


CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HER AND DO NOT FOR ANY REASON GO TO BOSTON


this includes returning emails, texts, calls or letters from her

this relationship has run its course, so move on

do not go backwards, learn something from it

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 8:05 AM. Reason : cause no one reads the bottom of a previous page]

1/11/2010 8:00:51 AM

The best way to get over one girl is to get under another.

1/11/2010 8:54:33 AM

^ done

1/11/2010 8:55:29 AM

1/11/2010 8:57:04 AM

the good parts of balitmore >>> the good parts of raleigh in so many ways its not even really fair.

hell even overall, atleast youre in the NE corridor

1/11/2010 9:03:51 AM

sounds like you didn't fulfill her physical needs

the pussy does not belong on that unreachable of a pedestal

1/11/2010 9:30:20 AM

I haven't read this whole thread, but was this a long distance relationship? I know they can be tough. I, too, have had numerous relationships over AIM. I felt the same way. Like she was perfect for me and there was no one else for me. Have you ever met her in person? That helps strengthen the relationship. Makes it seem more real. You see, I've found it's difficult to sustain a relationship via the internet and cellular telephones because it lacks that physical connection. It's is damn near impossible to give her what she needs physically. If you need someone to talk about with and who will understand without being judgemental, you can PM me.




Also, post her pics ITT.

Or here:
http://www.myexgf.com/

1/11/2010 10:40:54 AM

You're healed. Go and enjoy some strange, no need to thank me.

Really though, if she already made the move you're fucked but can rest knowing it was going to go bad later anyway. You can't use logic on other people, it's still your own logic. The fact that you got a few constructive replies to this, in Chit Chat, should tell you things are going to be ok. Cause they will. (the short term will continue to blow vigorously, but that's not your fault unless you stoke it)

1/11/2010 10:46:41 AM

No matter how bad you feel right now, she is actually doing you a huge favor. Currently, you are blinded by love and cannot see this truth, but once you re-gain your former strength, you will realize that you deserve someone with much greater integrity than her character allows. What many people fail to understand is that physical attractiveness is a temporary perk that will fade overtime. Those that put too much emphasis on this, will have more painful lives in the long run, for they lack sight of what is really important in a relationship. Vain and self-serving individuals deserve each other, and will more than likely divorce later in life, while you, hopefully, will find someone that is balanced and right for you. She sounds like the type of girl that marries someone that she has known for a shorter period of time than her local hairdresser, which is the very definition of naivety, and eventual life failure. Wish her well though, she's gonna need it. Ex-communicate her though, as some bitches tend to want to slither back into your life later on, claiming despair and other romantic nonsense. Also, get under someone, lol.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 11:17 AM. Reason : -]

1/11/2010 11:12:34 AM

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"there were no prince of bel-air lyrics at the end"

Quote :

"That was my first thought"

1/11/2010 11:21:23 AM

You know how long she was fucking that dude before she left you?

Ever wonder if you kissed her shortly after she got done sucking his dick?

That's the kind stuff I would be thinking about. Not, "I don't know if I'll ever find someone as great as her." Fuck that. Rage it out and then go find some strange and get over her. How old are you? Time to grow up. Shit happens. There are plenty of girls out there that are as good if not better than that whore that just cheated on you and left you for a dude to move to Baltimore. A really good girl wouldn't have drug you along for the past couple months. She would have manned up and dumped you the first time she fucked that other guy.

And don't bitch about the responses you get in fucking chit chat. I've been depressed over a girl before, but the last thing I would do is post a sob story in chit chat about it...and then complain about some of the insensitive posts.

1/11/2010 12:55:14 PM

he hasn't responded in 3 fucking pages

either he's in the shower crying his eyes out

or driving by her house obsessively

1/11/2010 1:01:28 PM

^^but she was totally a 11/10 brah, no worries, you found more quality tail after that...

1/11/2010 1:04:05 PM

what the fuck is this mickeymouse bullshit

1/11/2010 1:14:30 PM

You may have a chance of getting her back if you dress up like a vampire. It's sure to work.

1/11/2010 1:16:38 PM

Dressing up is the easy part. Trying to make yourself sparkle is a lot trickier.

1/11/2010 1:35:14 PM

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"I just wish there was something I could do. Something to make this go away. I just don't know."

Man the fuck up.

1/11/2010 1:50:15 PM

you'll never get over it, and you'll never forgive

it just hurts less everyday

1/11/2010 2:02:08 PM

I can't help but notice that no where in the OP's post does he call this girl his girlfriend...

FRIEND ZONE

1/11/2010 2:19:23 PM

hahaha oh shit you right

1/11/2010 2:21:41 PM

Once you experience an actual loss in your life, you'll realize that this stuff ain't shit.

1/11/2010 2:22:28 PM

just fuck her best friend....she'll let you, women are SCANDALOUS...i don't know how many of ex's "friends" i've been inside of

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 2:24 PM. Reason : p.s. i guess that makes me SCANDALOUS too]

1/11/2010 2:24:07 PM

1/11/2010 2:25:34 PM

like I said, I didn't come here posting looking for sympathy. It was just a way to release the shit inside of me. It was late, I couldn't think of anybody to call, and so on. That being said, while some of these responses don't surprise me, some of you are still truly some sick fucks who should probably go play in traffic.

Last night I did end up talking to a friend of mine on the phone for over an hour. I'm about to go meet with him over at Centennial and probably get some coffee. I felt much better at the end of last night than the night before; Saturday was the night that she had moved, and I definitely had a genuine freak out. I felt pretty good after talking with him and I had a brief moment where I wondered if this is the most magical time of my life; the fact I am opening up and connecting with either new people or old ones in ways I previously hadn't is quite exciting to me.

I'm not going to drive to Baltimore. I probably won't hear from her anyway; why would I? I've blocked her in every single conceivable way that I possibly can outside of the telephone, but she has no reason to call or text unless she's out of her mind. Really the hardest thing is trying not to look at her pages now. I don't drink alcohol, and I don't want to fuck some other girl right now in an attempt to forget her. I've tried such things before and oftentime felt much emptier after the fact.

Some of you seem to make the claim that I'm not "manning up" by expressing how I feel. I would like to ask you idiots which is healthier: stuffing this shit down, or being real and getting it off my chest? It takes courage to say some of the shit I've said. Maybe not so much on here, but definitely to friends, family, and the like. The things I'm doing, while the effects may be only temporary, are at least working for me.

1/11/2010 3:00:54 PM

delete or block the fucking pages too

no friend on fb or myspace or twitter updates

the less you see that reminds you of her the better


and believe me, chix are dumb, she will try and be friends

fuck her

1/11/2010 3:04:14 PM

I've deleted her on all of those websites, and not just that I've changed my settings so she can't even send me a message, post on the wall, or even look at my pictures. She can't even see my birthday. All she can see is my name and my profile picture. That's it.

However, like I said, it is a temptation to look at her pages because they have no such restrictions on them. I can literally see everything. Is there a way that I can either block or page or make it so I can't look at it?

1/11/2010 3:06:13 PM

go to your settings, on fb at least

block that user and if she's even in a freakin picture, her name wont be a link

there are ways to block them shits

1/11/2010 3:10:03 PM

yeah

off yourself

1/11/2010 3:11:03 PM

and you will laugh at this once this chick gets divorced and comes back to "give it another try"

just ignore any and all attempts for a couple of yrs

she won't give up though

1/11/2010 3:12:06 PM

we are telling you to move on, in other words the next stage

1/11/2010 3:12:52 PM

I wouldn't block the page. Then she'll know you blocked her, she'll tell your mutual friends and you'll seem like a wuss. I wouldn't have even dropped her to be honest. Just hide her updates and control yourself. You don't want to block her, then have a fit and unblock her, and back and forth.

1/11/2010 3:13:39 PM

just did it. word up! can't even see her face or jack SHIT.

1/11/2010 3:16:28 PM

^^ I don't really give a shit if she knows I blocked her.

1/11/2010 3:17:28 PM

^3 I doubt she'll think he's a wuss. She's probably not even looking at his page.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 3:17 PM. Reason : .]

1/11/2010 3:17:32 PM

it's really the best thing to do in this type of situation

1/11/2010 3:19:42 PM

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"She's probably not even looking at his page."

If this relationship was as serious as described, I would bet she has been.

1/11/2010 3:27:37 PM

no wonder this relationship didn't work, it had two bitches in it.

1/11/2010 3:37:34 PM

^ damn dude, I can't even imagine the laughs you'll pull with that one.

1/11/2010 3:53:15 PM

oh snap! Just got a text: "Thanks for blocking me from your friends"

1/11/2010 3:54:25 PM

Hahahaha....told you dude. Now don't respond.

1/11/2010 3:56:20 PM

she seems surprised, but i won't say anything back

1/11/2010 3:58:39 PM

yeah, fight the temptation to respond.......she'll write back later

1/11/2010 3:59:40 PM

Block the bitch. She will think you are a wuss if you friend her on facebook, guaranteed. Make it so she has to be creepy and hop on other people's profiles just to check up on you. It will just make her that much more crazy/unhealthy/regretful. Kick her to the digital curb dog and move on to someone that really compliments you and appreciates you. Trust me, no matter how hot the bitch, there is always that one guy in the world who will not put up with her shit anymore. That is now you, my son, lol.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:06 PM. Reason : -]

1/11/2010 4:04:31 PM

bitches are so dumb sometimes...lol

you got the reaction out of her that i would have wanted and not responding just will make it worse for her...

but this needs to be repeated

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"I can't help but notice that no where in the OP's post does he call this girl his girlfriend... FRIEND ZONE"

was she your girl?

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:07 PM. Reason : sdfaf]

1/11/2010 4:05:32 PM

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"I don't drink alcohol"

Look man, I'm trying real hard to have your back, but then you say things like this and I wonder if you're beyond help.

For hundreds if not thousands of years, men have responded to relationship problems with the same three tools:

1) Alcohol
2) Anger
3) Fucking other people

Do you think we've been doing this since the discovery of fermentation because it doesn't work?

1/11/2010 4:10:41 PM

Haha, I can't believe she actually texted you dude. Yet, somehow I can totally believe it. What did she honestly expect you to do?!?

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"you got the reaction out of her that i would have wanted and not responding just will make it worse for her..."

Which is why I can't believe she did it! Yeah man, I have to agree that by blocking her you have certainly unnerved her a bit. She wants you to gravel and communicate with her and be an annoying douche so she can feel better about what she's done. By not saying anything you are effectively dropping the proverbial hammer on her ass. Keep it up!

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:14 PM. Reason : ]

1/11/2010 4:10:49 PM

It shouldn't be that surprising at all. Arguably, women crave attention more than anything else on earth. Take away all hopes of communication from a reliable attention giver, and their true colors fly in the wind faster than you can say slut.

Grumpy, justifying a dependency on alcohol with historical male rejection coping mechanisms is hardly a healthy approach to relationship problems and life in general. Still, getting drunk always helped me, but it's not for everyone.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:15 PM. Reason : -]

1/11/2010 4:13:21 PM

PERSPECTIVE

is what you need

there are starving children in africa. and you think you're sad

seriously though - getting over a relationship takes time so you're just gonna have to suck it up. and i would not recommend drinking or drugs as an outlet for your grief. from experience.

1/11/2010 4:17:06 PM

i would recommend drinking or drugs as an outlet for your grief. from experience.

1/11/2010 4:18:50 PM

dont listen to her ^^ lol

copious amounts of both drugs and alcohol will make you feel lots better for a few hours

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:19 PM. Reason : ^]

1/11/2010 4:19:03 PM