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8/11/2008 2:44:58 PM

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"how the fuck do you compromise on something like that? yeah baby i'll only drilltip 2 other bitches a month instead of 4. What can i say, i'm a giver."

lulz

8/11/2008 2:45:21 PM

the more a guy knows you're into him and want a realtionship, the less likely he is to settle down

8/11/2008 3:26:55 PM

^exactly

8/11/2008 3:33:09 PM

not true for me

8/11/2008 3:34:06 PM

^probaly because your a male-whore (or at least your post would lead me to think so) sooooo any girl atcually willing to settle down w/ you.....you better keep

not breaking balls here my friend, I too have become a victim of the "male-whore" title through the small circuit of black females at NCSU...never screw w/ a sorority

8/11/2008 3:48:28 PM

im not going to even bother at reading anyone elses comments, but this is what i see:

he isnt ready for commitment, so he went that road. he does like you but is at that age where he wants to have fun and if anything happens, then ok. but doesnt want to be tied down.

He isnt a pig because he didnt say he wants to be able to fuck around, even if you think thats what hes doing, thats not necessarily true.

Girls have been in the same position but for them, its easier cause guys will still want to just hang out, buy them drinks and take them to dinner. its a much easier case for them because they dont care about someone spending money on them.
he still wants to do shit, i dont mean sex, but hes willing to spend time and money to have fun.

If your wanting a relationship, have fun hanging out with him. but if he cant give you a relationship right now, with fidelity, exclusiveness, and whatever else........then dont give him sex or anything. just have fun like he's a good friend. if you decide to fuck or do anything, then thats on you.
You are still then able to date others and try and find someone who does want a relationship, and if he has a problem with it. just remind him of this stuff. hes got no right to ask for anything if he wont give you what you want, and vice versa.

so either, dont hang out with an awesome guy who might turn around and commit.
or
say fuck it and move on.


whatever you do, DO NOT COMPROMISE WHAT YOU WANT and NEED for anyone or anything. Because the one you will be happy with, you wont have to do that with him

8/11/2008 3:50:25 PM

definitely not a male whore


that would mean i have sex

8/11/2008 3:51:12 PM

i thought only goths, pornstars, and discount medicine companies still use myspace

8/11/2008 3:55:02 PM

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"Just because I wanted to know if he was into me or just playing me"

You're playing your damn self fucking every guy with a reasonably (and sometimes not so reasonably) functioning cock and then whining about it when they figure out you're bat shit crazy and don't want to be exclusive.

Jesus Christ.

This is like a bad soap opera bordering on some trashy daytime talk show shit.

8/11/2008 3:55:38 PM

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"so I should have just waited until I was really in love with him to find out he didn' t want an exclusive relationship"

I don't think anyone is saying you shouldn't have found that out. Maybe it was a little soon, maybe it wasn't; but you could have just asked him instead of posting it for hundreds of people to read.

8/11/2008 4:09:10 PM

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"f he really doesn't want fidelity in a relationship, should I even try?"

No.

I would stop contacting him if I were you.

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"the more a guy knows you're into him and want a realtionship, the less likely he is to settle down "

Well, I'm fucked then.

[Edited on August 11, 2008 at 4:16 PM. Reason : .]

8/11/2008 4:15:27 PM

yea i fucked around with my girl for 8 months before we started dating. 5 weeks aint shit. you come off as desperate

8/11/2008 4:17:40 PM

My advice: either deal with the open relationship or dump him.

I was in a sort of similar situation and I pretty much forced the guy in to committing to me. I didn't think I was forcing him at the time, but looking back I realize I did. I pretty much told him either we were exclusive or we were over. He committed to me, but after we broke up (6 months later) I found out he had cheated on me many many times. That definitely hurt more than dumping him would have and even more than having an open relationship and knowing he was fucking other people would have.

8/11/2008 4:25:21 PM

Why is it that girls try SO HARD?
Are you not confident enough in yourself to say...no thanks, get back to me when you want settle down?

8/11/2008 4:47:53 PM

they just want to fix any and everything

8/11/2008 4:48:23 PM

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"Are you not confident enough in yourself to say...no thanks, get back to me when you want settle down?"

Do you really have to ask this?

8/11/2008 4:48:38 PM

^good point. Its been a long day at work----

^^I do too for certain people in my life, but not someone who's already jerkin' my chain

8/11/2008 4:49:20 PM

...That is, of course, assuming there is anything to fix.

Dude not wanting to be with != dude being broken

Oh, wait...that's the other end of the confidence spectrum from sylvershadow

8/11/2008 4:50:26 PM

Just because clingy, obsessive, and crazy worked in "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" doesn't mean it really works in real life.

Guys like the chase. It keeps them interested in you. Don't be always available when he calls or wants to hang out, but don't fall off the face of the earth either. Go hang out with your friends and go hang out with other guys. If he has a problem with being exclusive, see how he feels if you are out with other guys. If he really likes you, he will not want another guy tappin that ass. Period end.

You both want completely different things, and unfortunately, you will probably be the one hurt by all this. If you were to start as an open relationship and he happens to sleep with other women while in this relationship, how could you trust him not to do so if he decides he wants an exclusive relationship with you? I know personally I couldn't trust him.

I say let him go. There are plenty of fishes in the sea and yes, there is a guy out there who wants an exclusive relationship and who really wants to be with you. He will make all the efforts to do so. You just have to be patient and wait. Yes, it is hard, but so worthwhile when the right one does come along.

8/11/2008 11:13:35 PM

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"Guys like the chase. It keeps them interested in you. Don't be always available when he calls or wants to hang out, but don't fall off the face of the earth either."

Christ almighty.

The chase is not what keeps guys interested.
You keep guys interested...or not, but the games sure as hell don't. Quit offering such terrible platitudes!

What part of "BE YOURSELF" do so many women not get??

[Edited on August 11, 2008 at 11:23 PM. Reason : asdlkj]

8/11/2008 11:23:11 PM

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"so I write about it on myspace."

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"so I write about it on myspace."

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"so I write about it on myspace."

FAIL

8/11/2008 11:41:09 PM

Without reading all the other shit, the real answer is unknown until we know two more pieces of information:

1. What do you look like?
2. What does he look like?

And not your descriptions, either. I want to see real pics, and then EVERYONE will be able to give you the correct answer about what to do.

8/11/2008 11:41:25 PM

Sounds to me like you're setting yourself up for heart ache. You need to just give up on him, you'll never make someone be someone that they're not. And you shouldn't go into a 'relationship' and expect to change something about that other person. You can't pick and choose what you like about him and then expect to make him into your 'ideal boyfriend'.

There are plenty of other great guys out there. This guy just wants to sleep around right now.

8/12/2008 12:07:50 AM

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"Guys like the chase. It keeps them interested in you. Don't be always available when he calls or wants to hang out, but don't fall off the face of the earth either. Go hang out with your friends and go hang out with other guys. If he has a problem with being exclusive, see how he feels if you are out with other guys. If he really likes you, he will not want another guy tappin that ass. Period end."

8/12/2008 12:11:12 AM