for a few hours

but then before you know it you're a coke whore and/or an alcoholic

1/11/2010 4:21:34 PM

well this kid needs to live a little on the wild side

1/11/2010 4:22:21 PM

Quote :

"Grumpy, justifying a dependency on alcohol with historical male rejection coping mechanisms is hardly a healthy approach to relationship problems and life in general. Still, getting drunk always helped me, but it's not for everyone."

Come now. I justify my dependency on alcohol based on the fact that history is littered with tales of great men who were even drunker than me. Churchill and FDR didn't defeat the teetotal Hitler by not chain smoking and guzzling gin.

But I guess you're right -- it not for everybody. Some people are useless when they drink. So I suggest you experiment until you find a controlled substance that works for you. Also, strip clubs.

1/11/2010 4:22:43 PM

he could probably use a pick me up

he sounds like a major debbie.

1/11/2010 4:22:46 PM

^^^^ nothing wrong with being one or the other, as long as you're not both

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:23 PM. Reason : x]

1/11/2010 4:23:14 PM

a little bit of white girl and he'd be the life of the party

1/11/2010 4:23:24 PM

Has anyone suggested starting a LiveJournal page yet? They have cool color templates to choose from and everything.

http://www.livejournal.com/

1/11/2010 4:23:25 PM

whoa whoa, we are talking about gaining perspective through drugs for a short period of time, not a dependency. Getting drunk helps you realize that the pain is all in your head and you can be happy again. Not condoning self-destructive behavior or anything.

1/11/2010 4:23:52 PM

ah, limerence

1/11/2010 4:24:41 PM

at least a dependency would give him something else to focus on

1/11/2010 4:24:47 PM

Quote :

"Has anyone suggested starting a LiveJournal page yet? They have cool color templates to choose from and everything."

Posting sappy song lyrics to your FB wall is another awesome idea.

1/11/2010 4:25:05 PM

1/11/2010 4:25:34 PM

WE HAVE A NEW CHALLENGER

1/11/2010 4:26:13 PM

Another solution:








Inhale deep. Feel the burn. The pain will subside quicker than you think.

1/11/2010 4:27:07 PM

I had a chick tell me that she would be in total despair if I stopped talking to her. It's all noise dog, and fuck that noise.

1/11/2010 4:27:18 PM

i'm sure someone has already suggested vindictive behavior like fucking her best friend

but i'll second it

1/11/2010 4:27:52 PM

^^was this after she dumped you?

1/11/2010 4:28:55 PM

Bust in on her and her new man with a shotgun while they are both fucking each other's brains out, then blow YOUR brains out all over THEM with the gun. Jokes on them now. They'll probably do some jail time for getting pegged with your murder. If not, they'll most definitely be fucked up for the rest of their live after witnessing that while balls deep and butt naked.

1/11/2010 4:31:51 PM

^^

It was right after we agreed to stop seeing each other. You know how people say that there is no such thing as a "mutual" break-up? I kinda agree with that notion, so in that sense, yeah, she initiated the break-up, but I ended the relationship. She was hot, and I wanted to continue to bang her, but I would never marry her because she was seriously nuts.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:36 PM. Reason : -]

1/11/2010 4:32:22 PM

dude...you are 23...is this really your first heart break? i know it hurts for now but it will get easier and before you know it you will be glad things worked out he way that they did. who is it that said the best way to get over one girl is to get under another?

1/11/2010 4:35:07 PM

Fuck slittin her throat, cut this bitch's head OFF

1/11/2010 4:35:32 PM

Quote :

"how about you learn to live your own life without wrapping yourself so tightly around someone else's that you strangle the shit out of them and make them want to move to Boston and marry some other guy that may sound harsh as shit, but some of us have been there and that's pretty much what you've done and will continue to do if you keep putting people on a pedastal just live your own life and add someone to yours, don't let their life become yours "

i'd strongly suggest you avoid marriage.



ALSO to the OP:

Since you have avoided answering the questions in this thread, I'm going to assume she was a long distance girlfriend (online phone etc). Did you ever meet her in person?

1/11/2010 4:45:46 PM

50 bucks says he was her 'bff'

1/11/2010 4:48:10 PM

I still think he was in the FRIEND ZONE

1/11/2010 4:48:15 PM

Dude ive been there, about 9 years ago now, and about 6 months ago she came back into town for 4th of july or some shit to see her family. well her sister (also hot as fuck) took her out to a few places in town drinking and shit. she dont get out much anymore because her now husban tightened the fuck out of those reins. i ran into them at a bar, and we were kinda catching up, i showed her my daughter, and she showed me her kids, etc.

well long story short, i went back to her sisters house with them, she was shit trashed since she dont drink much anymore, and we started fooling around. i got up and went to the restroom, and told her i wanted her nekked when i returned. in the restroom i popped 2 "V's" and when i came back she was nekked. she sucked my dick for a few minutes, (she wouldnt do that while we were together) and before long we were grudge fucking like you cant imagine. after several difernt ways, we were doggy'n and she got a little suprise buttsex and i never skipped a beat. I tore that ass up...after about 2 hours of "V" fucking, and her ass wore out, i just got up and left.

the next morning, i got a text from her that said "Wow! i guess ill come back to town more often" to which i replied "dont bother" and then blocked her from my phone.

revenge will be yours one day, young padawan.

1/11/2010 4:50:33 PM

motherfuckers that have relationships with people they have never met are a little fucking and i wouldnt trust them

1/11/2010 4:50:44 PM

wait wait wait

so this wasn't even a real relationship?!?

1/11/2010 4:52:34 PM

i'm not raeding all this, anyone wanna summarize?

until then ima just say:

pussy

1/11/2010 4:54:45 PM

^^^^ hold up so you just told a story that included eating vampire blood??

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 4:58 PM. Reason : ^]

1/11/2010 4:58:22 PM

^^^Seriously...re-read the OP. He doesn't call her his gf, just that he had a relationship w/ her...bought her things, was nice to her etc. Then she started to drift (b/c she met this new guy).

This is a classic case of FRIEND ZONE

^^guy is in friend zone with girl for 2 years, she meets real man and moves on...he is crushed.

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 5:01 PM. Reason : ]

1/11/2010 5:00:03 PM

so...did they ever bang or not ?

I feel like he would have mentioned it if they had

1/11/2010 5:00:39 PM

No he doesn't mention sexual contact w/ this woman...all the more reason to suspect friend zone status

[Edited on January 11, 2010 at 5:04 PM. Reason : ]

1/11/2010 5:03:16 PM

Quote :

"write her letters, send her gifts"

I'm starting to have the same suspicions.

1/11/2010 5:09:35 PM

ya he's avoiding that question, sounds to me like friends zone


ddk won the first page

second page sucked

wdprice won the third page

Quote :

"what the fuck is this mickeymouse bullshit"

pretty sure this thread should have gone in first world problems

1/11/2010 5:10:44 PM

there is such a thing as good grief

just ask charlie brown

1/11/2010 5:11:17 PM

lol at longbow_fc's post. that is classic.

1/11/2010 5:24:21 PM

Hope you feel better parentcanpay. Sorry about your situation. While I can't empathize with your situation, I can definitely empathize with this part, probably for the rest of my life:

Quote :

"I feel like a huge chunk of my soul has not been taken from me as much as it has been ripped out. I honestly feel like it's never going to end. Like I'm going to feel like this forever. Like I'll never meet somebody who was as beautiful; somebody who had eyes like hers, a smile like hers, a voice and laugh like hers, a sense of humor like hers, everything like that. Like I'll never meet somebody that I can talk about the same things I used to talk to her about; like I'll never meet somebody I can be that close to, feel the things I did, and be in a position to give all the things I used to give again."

Good luck, man.

1/11/2010 6:08:18 PM

Quote :

"Bust in on her and her new man with a shotgun while they are both fucking each other's brains out, then blow YOUR brains out all over THEM with the gun. Jokes on them now. They'll probably do some jail time for getting pegged with your murder. If not, they'll most definitely be fucked up for the rest of their live after witnessing that while balls deep and butt naked"

10/10. would read again.

I second this advice.

1/11/2010 6:14:45 PM

without reading past the OP

she played the friend zone card. the lesson to be learned here is shit or get off the pot. lingering in the friend zone ALWAYS leads to disappointment.

1/11/2010 6:32:45 PM

^this guy gets it.

1/11/2010 6:39:15 PM

If they weren't even dating (and/or having sex), then this is really fucking sad.

1/11/2010 8:13:18 PM

^^i speak from experience.

1/11/2010 8:28:01 PM

Allright. Some of you seem to think I'm "avoiding" questions on here. The fact of the matter is that I'm trying not to stay inside. I'm trying to stay out as much as I can with friends and the like, talk about this shit, and get to the point where I can move on to bigger and better things. To answer a few questions:

1. Yes, I have seen her in person. I met her in person. However, she live(d) in VA so it WAS long distance.
2. She was my girlfriend.

Quote :

"^^^Seriously...re-read the OP. He doesn't call her his gf, just that he had a relationship w/ her...bought her things, was nice to her etc. Then she started to drift (b/c she met this new guy). This is a classic case of FRIEND ZONE "

Well lookie here! Elkaybie, I guess you've just figured it all out, haven't you? I'm impressed; I wish I could see you right now and give you a round of applause. I swear, I've met too many stupid bitches in my day that think their shit smells like roses, that they are smarter than everyone, have everything figured out, and know the solution and answer to everything. Elkaybie, when I say that I was in a relationship with somebody, wouldn't you think there's a pretty strong chance that they would have been my girlfriend? I would come in here and post what I did originally and expect people on here to know the difference, but now I realize that you are a special case in which everything needs to be spelled out because, after all, you're a stupid cunt and you should probably go play in traffic.

3. Yes, I did have sex with her.
4. This is not my first heart break but I can probably be honest in saying she's the first girl I really cared about. Some of you probably think I'm crazy or lying because of the whole long distance thing, but it is true. So it is the first heartbreak OF ITS KIND.
5. I sent her gifts, wrote her, and did all these things for her because guess what? I really loved her and cared about her, and wanted to do things for her to make her feel happy and loved. Imagine that.

Some of you seem to "question" me because I do not drink. The real truth is that I can't drink moreso than I don't drink. I did my fair share of drugs and drank my fair share of alcohol, and for me it was a problem. It led me to some really ugly situations and, as such, I couldn't do it any longer. I've been sober for 2 years now (I quit using drugs/drinking the day after I turned 21), and there is no way in hell I'd ever want to go back to that shit again. To each his own.

1/12/2010 2:29:58 AM

cool story bro

1/12/2010 2:32:11 AM

There's such a thing as good grief, just ask Charlie Brown

1/12/2010 2:45:23 AM

When I've dealt with heartbreak, I've had to be very careful not to do too much sleeping, as this would increase the depression. Get out and exercise! Use the pain to intensify your workouts.

1/12/2010 5:27:42 AM

Quote :

"She was hot, and I wanted to continue to bang her, but I would never marry her because she was seriously nuts."

That pretty much sums up the male condition ...

1/12/2010 7:37:16 AM

Now now...no need for name calling

1/12/2010 8:00:49 AM

moved to page 5

[Edited on January 12, 2010 at 2:51 PM. Reason : s]

1/12/2010 2:47:01 PM

I realize this thread is about those who have started their own long distance relationship.... which I have not. Hear me out, maybe I can offer some insight.

I am in outside sales, which is currently salary+commission, but will move into straight commission starting at the beginning of July 2010. I have been in this position since July 2009. I have competition from several direct manufacturing sales reps, large distributors, and local distributors. Here are the advantages and disadvantages of each:

Direct Advantages: Immediate knowledge of new technology, no middle man mark up, one shipping bill (paid by manufacturer or buyer of goods), access to larger range of non-commodity items, control inventory, have access to many distributors that can effectively sell their goods which increases market share, and set prices of commodity they manufacture.

Direct disadvantages: Typically have 1-3 sales reps per region (i.e. southeast, mid-atlantic, northeast, etc.) limiting the number of accounts they can successfully manage/cold-call, lack physical customer service or physical technical service available to or affordable for smaller users or altogether, are sometimes not trustworthy because they will go in behind their distributors that sell their commodity to one account in large quantities (i.e. they missed a big account, and have found out about it through a distributor selling their particular product) which leads to the distributor not selling their product anymore, have too many distributors selling the product ultimately driving the set price down through deviations, possibly rely on distributors to actually sell the product, and competition from other direct sources.

Large distributor advantages: have access to other commodities that go hand in hand with other manufacturers (poor example- grocery stores sell milk as well as cereal), get direct pricing, many locations regionally or nationally easing the shipping burden of buyers with multiple locations, personal service either customer or technical, many sales reps that are able to cover a broader territory, access to multiple manufacturers of the same commodity allowing to keep prices in check, service programs that smaller companies can't offer and direct providers can't match in price or value, and experts of many many commodities as opposed to one or a few.

Large distributor disadvantages: smaller local distributors creating price wars (think Michael Scott Paper Co vs Dunder-Mifflin), direct mfg's going in behind and stealing business, limited access to all of the mfg's (you won't find Harris Teeter name brands in Food Lion and visa versa), can't truly set prices because it's based on both supply and demand, territory management, and tough growth prospects in slower economies (this is true for direct as well really)

Local distributor advantages: Typically a good ol' boy setting where the seller and the buyer know each other for years (this does happen at all levels, but mostly at the local level), local folks are right down the street and can be used in emergencies, if the local guy buys at high enough volumes then there is no shipping charge to the end user, and access to both direct mfg's and large distributors.

Local distributor disadvantages: easily beaten in price, array of commodities, array of technology, lack of trained staff, low cash flow, etc etc etc.

This is what I have noticed in my six months, I am sure there are plenty more that need mentioning. The way I am setting myself apart as a sales person is this: I go after the big accounts right now while I am new. The big accounts, if I land them, will take care of me while I am new and building a customer base. The money made off of those allows me to focus free time on smaller accounts that get me higher margins. I build up big accounts, I would like to have 5-10 of these, then get 20-30 medium accounts. If I lose 1 or 2 big accounts, the 20-30 medium accounts keep me afloat while I go after new big accounts. I don't really waste time on small accounts simply because they basically pay for breakfast or something really small.

I will say this, if you can't get a big account in the first 6-8 months (assuming you have cash flow that you can ride this long) you could be in a world of trouble. If you can get one, it will really make going after the others a lot more enjoyable and less stressful. It's simply just very exhausting wasting any time on anything other than big accounts in the very beginning. You work just as hard on the medium sized accounts and see 1/3 to 1/36 of the money in my situation.

If you have any other questions, you can PM me. I hope this helps in the slightest!

1/12/2010 2:49:19 PM