^its not that, its just that those who do that are some times looking for a man and then once they get one they feel that they don't have to do that any more to get have someone want to be with them. thus they gain wait. and really thats where terpball is coming from. when this happens, or that type of girl does that, it is misleading, because you assume shes into it for her health but really all she wanted was to catch you. its the ol' bait and switch.

4/11/2008 3:15:18 PM

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"and I'm saying that I don't think any woman would intentionally do that ergo, I don't think that could be construed as lying because there's no intent to keep it (that she will eventually gain 20 pounds) hidden from you "

Okay, then why work out in the first place? Why eat healthy in the first place? Why stop after you're in a relationship?

That would be like me stealing jokes to tell you for the first 3 months we're dating... you have a strong attraction to my sense of humor. The jokes stop after 3 months because I've already got you. You are no longer attracted to my sense of humor, because I'm not stealing jokes anymore.

That would make me one dishonest bastard right?

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"you're right terpball it's all ahuge conspiracy, we girls are taught to starve ourselves for a couple of months eat celery and stuff, work out and then when we really got our man just pig out.. "

Wait a fuckin minute, I'm not talking about ALL girls. Jesus H

[Edited on April 11, 2008 at 3:17 PM. Reason : ]

4/11/2008 3:16:07 PM

I'm pretty sure that would make you Carlos Mencia

but either way, I'd obviously find out and move on

4/11/2008 3:16:55 PM

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"20lbs seems like a lot, but it really isn't. i can hardly tell a difference lookswise between my friends that are around the same height and that weigh 20 or 30lbs more than me. yes, we wear different sizes, but you honestly wouldn't know it. i guess maybe its a huge difference if you went from like 95lbs to 120lbs. but if you go from like 115 to 130 i mean....it really isn't that substantial i don't think. am i wrong? i don't even think that is a drastic change in clothes size. maybe you'd go from a 2 to a 4 or something or even a 6 OMG so fat. but really...20lbs...i don't get the hype."

20lbs is A LOT...unless you're already like 250lb.

20lbs on someone who is 115 is more than 1/6 of their body weight. 1/6th!! If you can "hardly tell a difference" when someone adds 1/6th of their body weight, then maybe you need to get a new prescription. A lot does depend on your height though. A girl that is around the 5' mark will not carry that extra 20lbs well. But a girl who is 5 and a half feet and taller can spread that 20lbs out.

I weigh a little under 155lbs, and if I put on 20 lbs I'd consider myself a fattie.

4/11/2008 3:17:06 PM

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"but either way, I'd obviously find out and move on "

THANK YOU!!!!!

4/11/2008 3:18:07 PM

I've said nothing but "dump her and move on" to you about the situation from the beginning.

I don't know why you're thanking me now.

4/11/2008 3:18:37 PM

4/11/2008 3:19:18 PM

yea i didnt think about the height factor, prob. cause in 5'6.5"

and maybe there are other reasons why she doesnt work out as much, I used to work out everyday but now I spend some of that time w/ my boyfriend..instead of working out.

4/11/2008 3:20:32 PM

right i thought about the height. if you are like 5 feet yes it will make a difference. but i don't see a marked difference between my friends who are of similar height that weigh 20lbs more....like if you looked at them you probably wouldn't think they were THAT much bigger than me. plus its not like girls gain weight all in the stomach/waist either. a lot if it is in boobs and ass so i guess that helps "spread" the weight too

4/11/2008 3:24:41 PM

yea a lot of girls gain in those two areas...those are also usually the first two things to go when you lose weight too

4/11/2008 3:27:14 PM

NOT FOR ME.....WOOT!

-35 lbs and boobs stayed the same size!

36D FTMFW!

4/11/2008 3:29:11 PM

yea I've never had that problem but thats what I hear

4/11/2008 3:35:53 PM

i really just posted that to tell everybody on tww that i have big boobs

4/11/2008 3:37:33 PM

I already knew all about her boobs

4/11/2008 3:42:14 PM

a size 4 is nothing to complain about.

when she starts having to buy new jeans or something...then you can worry.

and girls in healthy relationships shouldnt have to eat salads all the time or have makeup on or style their hair unless its a special occasion. you're in a relationship with her; if her eating habits make you think badly of her, just end it.

4/11/2008 3:49:09 PM

^^

4/11/2008 3:49:49 PM

All of you people continue to read this guy's posts as though they bore even the most passing resemblance to reality. Wolfweb, I'm ashamed of you.

4/11/2008 3:54:03 PM

why must you crush my dreams?

4/11/2008 3:55:10 PM

i mean really...unless you're dating a really really REALLY short chick....size 4 is tinyyy.

If any guy ever yelled at me for "ballooning up" when I went from a 2 to a 4 I'd dump him on the spot.

but you can tell her i have some clothes I can no longer fit in if she's interested lol (size 4 so hah...i lost weight in my relationship).

4/11/2008 3:56:24 PM

All of you people continue to read this guy's posts as though they bore even the most passing resemblance to reality. Wolfweb, I'm ashamed of you.

4/11/2008 4:01:25 PM

Didn't read the thread... but which user argued this thread up to 5 pages?

4/11/2008 4:56:30 PM

went to the grocery store earlier...got milk, yogurt, and bananas...cause i'm healthy etc

4/11/2008 4:57:04 PM

my girl and i watch out for each other, making sure we both stay healthy and exercise when we can and often do together.

but if she wants to eat an ice cream sandwich at 3am, that's fine with me! it's her choice to do so, and as long as she does it with moderation does it really matter? i expect her to offer me one too

even if she does gain a few extra pounds, im not gonna love her any less.

and jessiejepp, you can eat as much as you want just as long as you show off those nice legs

4/11/2008 5:17:45 PM

that is why I stalk this guy.

4/11/2008 5:19:08 PM

^^awwwwwwwwww

your girl is very lucky. I'm glad you have a REAL relationship like that.

[Edited on April 11, 2008 at 5:19 PM. Reason : fadfasdf punchmonk]

4/11/2008 5:19:25 PM

awwwwww, yeeeaaaaah

he'd be singing a different tune if she pigged out every night and surprised him with a huge gut and 20 extra pounds all of a sudden - especially given the history of them looking out for one-another

[Edited on April 11, 2008 at 5:21 PM. Reason : d]

4/11/2008 5:20:51 PM

I don't think you can suddenly gain that much weight

4/11/2008 5:23:28 PM

and i guess here's something a little shallow about me, but maybe not entirely unreasonable?

i like girls who take care of themselves and like to be healthy. i don't find it attractive if someone just sits inside and eats fatty foods all day w/o exercising, etc. i'd find a heavier person who exercises and tries to take care of themselves much more attractive than a skinny girl blessed w/ an excellent metabolism who sits around eating junk food all the time.

4/11/2008 5:24:52 PM

i just dont eat.

i think thats my problem. but when i do, i try to be healthy. i dont drink sodas...i live off water & cranberry/kiwi juice. but then i add water to those too.

and i'm vegetarian but hoping to get back to eating white meat soon if my stomach can survive.

skinny girls who eat a lot = on crack ftw

4/11/2008 5:30:45 PM

you don't eat... don't you get hungry?

ive been working on improving my girlfriend's diet, just because she doesn't eat a lot sometimes, especially when she's stressed out w/ school and stuff. she just forgets to eat.

me, on the other hand, i eat more than i need to just so i don't get hungry. i hate that feeling

4/11/2008 5:43:01 PM

terp.. sounds like you've had a lot of bad experiences with fat chicks to have such strong opinions on these matters.. do expound.

4/11/2008 6:11:20 PM

It's more of a devil's advocate thing. I dated a couple girls who got lazy and grew a little, not enough for me to be too concerned - but it did cause me to think "hey, what if this shit continues?"

4/11/2008 6:23:45 PM

Ok, just to be different. . .

I actually weigh 50+ pounds LESS than I did when I got married.

4/11/2008 8:35:35 PM

the last couple that i've dated for more than a month or so put on weight. so lets talk about those

one, i ended up getting back with her a couple months later and she had been going to the gym while she was single. stopped once we got back together.

and the most recent, i actually saw her dumb ass IN THE GYM after we stopped dating.

no one can convince me that its anything else besides "they let themselves go when they feel wanted"

4/11/2008 8:38:02 PM

I want my girl to look like this....
If she's over 90 pounds then that bitch is getting kicked to the curb

4/11/2008 8:59:47 PM

Porn, warez, or topsite.

Which is it?

4/11/2008 9:06:42 PM

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"the thing is she has tiramisu with dinner, then bombs on an ice cream sandwich. Thats almost insulting to do in front of a guy is what I'm saying. It would be the equivalent of your man quitting his job."

Alias.

4/11/2008 9:08:15 PM

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"I want my girl to look like this.... If she's over 90 pounds then that bitch is getting kicked to the curb in the ribs"

4/11/2008 9:15:57 PM

I'm going to need to sleep on it, but this just may be the dumbest thread I have ever seen.

4/11/2008 9:25:31 PM

Nope, didn't need to. This is the dumbest thread I have ever seen.

4/11/2008 9:39:06 PM

man you people really got this out of hand


I thought it was pretty straight forward

4/12/2008 11:52:50 AM

I put on all my weight before I got into the relationship I'm in...and now I've lost 13 pounds...at least you're starting off with a thin girl.

4/12/2008 12:00:41 PM

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"Most gay men are pretty fit. I'd say the same goes for a lot of lesbians too...although there are some bull-dykes."

Bullshit. There are gays lesbians of all shapes, sizes and health levels.

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"is not like LOOKS are for most men: it's not factor #1."

In the hunter gatherer sense, women are vessels for offspring. If a woman don't look healthy, then more than likely their kid is going to have all sorts of issues. It's the way we are cut out.


I consider myself in good shape and somewhat attractive, I don't feel it so wrong to be interested in chics at least as attractive as me. Not that I'm thinking about kids, but I value someone who takes an active interest in taking care of themself .

4/12/2008 12:00:45 PM

Lewizzle, I think you honestly got what I was trying to convey

4/12/2008 12:01:32 PM

Glad to oblige.

4/12/2008 12:04:14 PM

I don't think there is anything wrong for wanting to be with someone who takes care of their body. I also think there has to be a more realistic image as well. Anytime a big change takes place in someone's life, chances are their schedule changes around it, and for some people that means they can't make it out to the gym as often, or they don't have time to cook that dinner, and they had to run by fast food on the way.

Eventually, unless the person just has the body that will stay thin, most people will put on weight and get flabby even when they do take care of their body, it's a part of life.
The best thing to ask for is to just be healthy. Even skinny people can be all sickly.

4/12/2008 12:10:42 PM

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"Anytime a big change takes place in someone's life, chances are their schedule changes around it, and for some people that means they can't make it out to the gym as often, or they don't have time to cook that dinner, and they had to run by fast food on the way."

Different people have different priorities. Sure changes happen, but ultimately what you do is your choice.

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"Eventually, unless the person just has the body that will stay thin, most people will put on weight and get flabby even when they do take care of their body, it's a part of life."

You have no idea what you are talking about.

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"Even skinny people can be all sickly."

This is true.

4/12/2008 12:19:03 PM

The part that you didn't get, didn't really come out right.

Some people just naturally stay thin their whole life with out worry about what they eat or their level of activity. Unfortunately most people arn't like that and their metabolism will slow down. There are also some people who have taken care of their bodies their whole life but are still overweight because of other factors that they can't control. Like horemone inbalances, thyroid problems, and genetics.

So like I said, nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone that takes care of their body, and yes probably the majority of the time the size they are will reflect if they take care of their body, but some people you just can't tell.

4/12/2008 12:29:39 PM

what size are you sawahash?

4/12/2008 12:55:43 PM

I'm the fat size!

4/12/2008 1:03:18 PM