1/12/2010 2:51:28 PM

I understand long distance relationships. My fiancee and i met online a while back, but we visited every other week until she could move here. Many people on here have seen how much we've gone back and forth.

Honestly if you or her were not in your car every spare moment you had to go see each other, it wasn't going to work to begin with.

Especially only being in VA, shit mine was in ohio and she must have driven down every 2 weeks minimum 8 hour drive one way.

But as for advice, if it gets too bad, go check out the student health center, sometimes its just good to let out the shit to a person who isnt biased. You might even get some klonopin out the deal to help cope with the first month, which will be the worst.

Just keep her blocked as tough as it is and try not to think about her with the other guy. You'll get over it.

/guy who understands long distance


th3oretecht's advice is great

1/12/2010 2:52:01 PM

haha lulz @ bighit

[Edited on January 12, 2010 at 2:52 PM. Reason : .]

1/12/2010 2:52:12 PM

1. she sent me a friend request last night with the following message: "I still miss you....please don't shut me out of your life. Please."

2. Woke up and had this text: "You've totally broken your promise to always be there for me."

still no responses on my part.

1/17/2010 4:00:36 PM

sounds like things with Mister Baltimore aren't nearly as great as she thought they'd be

stay strong.

1/17/2010 4:01:41 PM

yeah, keep ignoring her.

don't even throw her a bone by responding. what she wants is the emotional connection from you... and something else from the other guy.

fuck that. relationships aren't a goddamn a la carte, pick what you want from different people and make your dream man type of thing.

1/17/2010 4:08:10 PM

Quote :

"fuck that. relationships aren't a goddamn a la carte, pick what you want from different people and make your dream man type of thing."

wish more women would understand that.

1/17/2010 4:45:12 PM

sounds like shes trying to manipulate you with the comments on the friend request and the text

if thats how she's treating you after having left you for some other dude, you're definitely best advised to just keep ignoring her. because honestly, what could she possibly bring into your life thats going to be worth it at this point?

break ups suck, no matter the circumstance. time heals everything, or at least makes it less glaring in your day to day life

1/17/2010 4:47:06 PM

time heals everything

except aids


time actually makes that kinda worse.

1/17/2010 4:49:54 PM

Ignore her and blaze a bowl.

This is the only advice worth a damn in this thread.

1/17/2010 4:50:40 PM

I will say that I'm still not over my breakup with NCSUWolfy. I still think about her, but I can manage to keep myself from calling her now.
She did me wrong, man. So wrong...

1/17/2010 4:51:28 PM

lol

1/17/2010 4:51:45 PM

I thought about editing that when I saw I had posted under you

but then I thought, "it's McDanger. He doesn't give a fuck, and won't take it for more than it's supposed to be... a joke. He knows I'm not talking about him"

and now, here I type...

1/17/2010 4:53:18 PM

This means you, motherfucker. You need to drop off the radar. Abuse drugs. Fuck. Listen to music.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVksHCi7n7c

Somebody embed this as it's the only advice that'll do this poor soul any good

1/17/2010 4:53:33 PM

oh emce

stop airing our dirty laundry on the internetz

1/17/2010 4:54:17 PM

1/17/2010 4:54:34 PM

Oh ALSO

If your profile is right, you're 23. Rest assured knowing you dodged a bullet. Time to make up for lost time that you stupidly spent in a relationship. You're in your early 20's, don't make the same mistake plenty of people do (myself included)

1/17/2010 5:03:45 PM

I forgot to bring my phone with me to class today. I left it at home and she sent me this text at 3:30:

"I cannot believe you are doing this to me. It's breaking my heart."

It's definitely fucking with me. I still haven't responded to her.

[Edited on January 20, 2010 at 11:18 PM. Reason : .]

1/20/2010 11:17:40 PM

you're better off

you know that, right?

1/20/2010 11:28:08 PM

^

1/20/2010 11:28:21 PM

just got over this chick playing the same game (was not long distance). you gotta quit thinking shes so perfect. she sucks. shes playing the EXACT same game, and i won. when i started to miss her or some stupid shit i thought about the things she did to me that i never would have done to her and it made me angry. i sincerely dislike her as a person. dont respond. dont respond. dont respond. no matter what you do. thats how i won.


[Edited on January 20, 2010 at 11:57 PM. Reason : .]

1/20/2010 11:40:12 PM

that's how to do it

no response

she's just a fucking attention whore anyway

1/20/2010 11:53:08 PM

1/21/2010 9:10:38 PM

Haven't heard from her since Wednesday.....i think she's got the point by now. i'm pretty sure i've heard the last of her.

in any case, i have met this new girl i'm into. she's 4 years older than me (27), but pretty cool

things are getting better each day. more and more i'm releasing just how terrible she really was for me

and it's only been 2 weeks since she moved

[Edited on January 25, 2010 at 3:22 AM. Reason : .]

1/25/2010 3:22:25 AM

Quote :

"Ignore her and blaze a bowl. This is the only advice worth a damn in this thread."

My advice of "ignore her and drink a lot" was just as valid, ass.

Anyway, parentcanpay, I believe you've passed through the worst of it. Now just stay the course. But don't rely on the 27 year old to distract you. A big thing to guard against is, if the 27 girl falls through, falling into old habits of depression and being woe about the bitch girl. Whatever you like about 27 you will like about others. This advice is meaningless now, but may be important later.

[Edited on January 25, 2010 at 3:29 AM. Reason : Those sentences were disjointed, but I still think they get the point across]

1/25/2010 3:28:21 AM

1/25/2010 3:28:56 AM

be careful on developing feelings too fast for your new girl, you don't just get over this kind of stuff after weeks or even months

but have fun with it, expect it to last a couple or three months, have lots of sex, and move on

you should probably be single for at least 6 months to a year.

im just being real here...





have fun!

1/25/2010 7:56:06 AM

I'm not dating or fucking the 27 year old. I hang out with her all the time, though. I just met her recently but the real thing she has taught me is, whether she knows it or not, I know now that I can completely and utterly be myself to another human being; one of my roadblocks with the girl who moved was how in the world I would ever find another girl that I could completely and utterly be myself around; free to be as stupid, goofy, or whatever as I want and not feel so weird about it. I can do those things with this girl, and now I have proof that my previous fear was invalid.

The girl definitely sent me friend requests on Facebook and Myspace again, both of which were ignored. The weird thing is that yesterday during the UNC/NCSU game one of my friends called me and was telling me the girl who moved was talking to her, telling her to tell me to call her and all that shit...........pretty weird stuff. She definitely tried to call me today, but I didn't answer it. I have successfully ignored her completely and utterly for almost 3 weeks now.

It can be hard as shit..........there are definitely times where I miss her and I second guess and question myself about if what I am doing is right. But then I have to remind myself that I have to do what is best for me, there's nothing I can do for her, and that it's not my fault if she's feeling shitty about what I'm doing to her. I know now that in the end, this girl was no good for me and if I let her back in, it will do negative things to me mentally and spiritually. Not only that, but if I go back to the old way of doing things then nothing will change and I'll just send up feeling like shit again. This girl was absolutely gorgeous; one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She had such a great sense of humor and was into so many of the things I was into. Yet, in the end, it just isn't worth it to me in light of all these attractive characteristics to put myself into that situation again. "To thine own self be true"

1/28/2010 2:18:33 AM

Wait, I didn't catch it on the last page. Did you tell this girl that you two were over? I assume so, that you didn't just stop communication out of the blue and without warning. While ignoring her in the long run is your best means to get over her, not establishing closure in a relationship, especially one that might have been seen as important to her, can be particularly devastating, and not just to women.

1/28/2010 2:36:18 AM

^just read the OP dude

1/28/2010 11:39:17 AM

^^^ good for you man, i fee sorta inspired by that

1/28/2010 12:12:59 PM