Then they wonder why they stop having sex and end up in a miserable marriage ....

Dear people... stay attractive keep bwning enjoy married life.

5/31/2008 10:39:25 AM

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"idiot savant"

5/31/2008 10:40:28 AM

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"have one or more areas of expertise, ability or brilliance that are in contrast with the individual's overall limitations."

5/31/2008 10:44:38 AM

as much as I want to disagree with this argument, especially because I just got married a month ago and "love should be able to withstand petty shit"


I have to agree

5/31/2008 10:44:47 AM

i knew i wanted to marry this current girl when she said the same thing.

5/31/2008 10:45:59 AM

I agree... but lets face it... there are shallow marriages. And i'm sick of one in particular complaining to me from both sides... this was just a vent

5/31/2008 10:46:40 AM

i think most people lose control over their eating when they realize "oh, marriage did not solve our problems, this person is definitely not perfect, and i should have waited for mr/mrs right." so slowly, people begin binge-eating to self medicate their growing depression and boredom. the other person seems turned off by your weight, as you are by theirs. so you both quit caring, say "fuck it" and start eating KFC dipped in ranch dressing, butter, and alfredo sauce by the bowlful.

that's my theory.

5/31/2008 10:47:43 AM

I dont like myself therefore I dont want you to see me naked, heres a fact, men dont care what you look like underneath your clothes as long as you have a pussy and some tittays.

5/31/2008 10:48:05 AM

or more like, ewwww, how many fat rolls is he going to let gather around his junk? i ain't touchin' that.

we play it off as a personal insecurity.

5/31/2008 10:50:18 AM

<-- goes 2 the gym to solve problems

5/31/2008 10:51:47 AM

Ya know...these people, they go to sleep at night, they think everything's good, everything's ok. Then they wake up the next morning and they're on fire.

5/31/2008 10:59:10 AM

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"love should be able to withstand petty shit"

i agree with this.

you didnt marry them based on what they look like. and if you did, go back to being shallow and instead marry some coke-addicted skank girl who will just end up cheating on you.

5/31/2008 11:00:54 AM

it's never ok to get fat

completely inexcusable

5/31/2008 11:02:34 AM

or some girl that has enough respect to keep herself halfway taken care of for her partner.

and the same thing for men... put a little effort into it, k?

5/31/2008 11:03:12 AM

^^right, but you're not going to stop loving them because they're not attractive. you should support them and join a gym, eat healthier, etc.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:05 AM. Reason : ^]

5/31/2008 11:05:38 AM

^^exactly. your partner getting fat is not petty shit.


^ well sure (although they shouldn't get fat to begin with). it's gonna be impossible to do unless they really want to do it, though.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:06 AM. Reason : asdfa]

5/31/2008 11:05:45 AM

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"you didnt marry them based on what they look like"

sure you did

that's definitely part of it, not all of it, but definitely part of it

don't fool yourself

5/31/2008 11:08:04 AM

^exactly

it's not shallow to be physically attracted to someone and then not be when they totally let themselves go.

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"you didnt marry them based on what they look like. and if you did, go back to being shallow and instead marry some coke-addicted skank girl who will just end up cheating on you."

you have an ugly b/f?

I love my g/f for the entire package. You can have an ugly girl with a good personality or a pretty girl with a shitty personality. Luckily I have a beautiful g/f (and soon to be fiance) with an awesome personality

I know that I'm going to try to keep myself fit because I want to look just as good for her as the day we got married. Obviously age will take its toll on my body but I will try to stay healthy.

She's not shallow at all and would still love me if I got fat. She just probably wouldn't be as physically attracted to me.


[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:10 AM. Reason : yo]

5/31/2008 11:08:12 AM

i think most people these days are extremes -- either health conscious or junk food junkies. i dont think that if they've developed healthy eating habits by their mid-20s that they're likely to change when married.

5/31/2008 11:08:15 AM

honestly i dont get how people get fat...i'm too active to ever let myself go...with my greenthumb and love for fishing, not to mention always walking everywhere now, i'm never gonna be able to get above 200 prolly

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:11 AM. Reason : 200]

5/31/2008 11:10:56 AM

i'm just sick of marriages failing because of society's messed up ideals. people divorce because they cheat on their spouses without thinking about how its going to affect their family and kids. it's really sad.

5/31/2008 11:10:57 AM

yeah, same here


but i'm also really sick of fat people.

and even if you don't think you're fat, there's a decent chance that you are. with a significant MAJORITY of our population being fat now, we (as a society) have developed a skewed perception of what constitutes "overweight".

and letting yourself go after marriage because you now perceive (and do have to a much greater extent) some security is not so different from cheating on your spouse. you're destroying your marriage without regard for your spouse or your kids all because you're a selfish, lazy fatbody.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:28 AM. Reason : asdfads]

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:28 AM. Reason : asdf]

5/31/2008 11:26:36 AM

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" and even if you don't think you're fat, there's a decent chance that you are."

i'm 5'11 and 128, asshat.

Edit: and assuming you were just using a collective "you" meaning anybody, i think that if someone got fat to the point where health problems occurred then you'd have a problem. a little pudge beyond the celeb stick-skinny "norm" is fine.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:32 AM. Reason : fakdfadfs2]

5/31/2008 11:30:01 AM

edit:

i'm not saying that everyone needs to look like a magazine cover.

you are FAT waaaaaaaaaay before it starts causing you health problems, though.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:36 AM. Reason : asdfasd]

5/31/2008 11:31:47 AM

also, don't have kids

5/31/2008 11:35:04 AM

Jack Lalanne said something about this that I totally agreed with, about how he wouldn't be attracted to his wife if she got out of shape. Sure you still love them, but the physical attraction would be down.

On a side note, it's weird that so many TV shows/movies have a fat guy married to a hot wife. I wonder if that is skewing perceptions as well.

[Edited on May 31, 2008 at 11:36 AM. Reason : I ain't no fattie]

5/31/2008 11:36:19 AM

not to sound creepy but i thought of the other day of making a thread like "who is the tallest hot chick on tww"

i'm sure you can see where thats going

5/31/2008 11:36:22 AM

jessejepp is tall

5/31/2008 11:36:56 AM

I have nothing against anyone who begins to get a little overweight when they get married. Obese is going too far, that's for sure.

My girl would need to stay somewhat attractive. I can let it go if she develops some sort of disability and gains some weight.

For the most part, girls who are somewhat slim to begin with are too self-conscious of themselves to let themselves go, unless they really don't care about themselves. If that's the case, I wouldn't hesitate to tell her that I think she's getting big, which is making her get ugly, and that she needs to whip herself into shape.

If she's going to keep herself looking good for anyone, it better be because of me or for herself. Not for her friends or for special occasions (class reunions), not for her boss or any coworker, not for the pool boy. If she's not willing to do what it takes to stay somewhat in shape for her man, then we gots problems.

5/31/2008 11:37:37 AM

Uh, if I marry a good looking woman and she goes to shit while I stay in shape, I'm pretty sure I'm getting a divorce. Why should I put in the effort while you look disgusting, it makes me look bad by comparison and I'm expected to stick it to some whale for the rest of my life? FUK THAT

5/31/2008 11:39:33 AM

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"i'm just sick of marriages failing because of society's messed up ideals. people divorce because they cheat on their spouses without thinking about how its going to affect their family and kids. it's really sad."

my mom stayed with my dad "for the kids" but they didn't have much of a marriage, more of a "roommates that sleep in the same bed" relationship. they never argued in front of us, they just were never affectionate.

then my mom started noticing the guys i dated were shitty like my dad, and my relationships with guys were all screwed up because i grew up with my parent's shitty relationship as a role model for my relationships...

but i think to "stay together for the kids" isn't always the best option. of course, my mom said she didn't know what would be best, you do what you think would be best at the time, and at least now she can say that they tried to stay together and didn't just give up the first time something bad happened.

5/31/2008 11:39:52 AM

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"i'm 5'11 and 128, asshat."

Tall and skinny.

I'm 6' and like 188.

5/31/2008 11:40:11 AM

i'm not marrying any woman i think is gonna get fat in the future...a lot of times you can tell by how fat their arms look, even if they are skinny

5/31/2008 11:40:23 AM

I hope this doesn't happen ever to me but i want a hubby who will go to the gym everyday with me.

5/31/2008 11:43:47 AM

I'll call out my girlfriend/wife if they start getting fat. If they don't do anything about it I'll have to leave them. My current gf likes this and will do the same for me.

5/31/2008 11:45:55 AM

i think after 1 baby everything changes for most people
even the guys focus on the baby and not the wife

5/31/2008 11:53:17 AM

make sure their moms are hot and skinny.. thats gotta help your chances of them being hot and skinny when theyre old too

5/31/2008 11:55:04 AM

lol at 55 i dont think anyone is "hot" anymore

5/31/2008 11:59:40 AM

i can think of a few...

5/31/2008 12:01:24 PM

okay, WITHOUT plastic surgery

5/31/2008 12:32:02 PM

I've noticed I'm the opposite, when I'm with a guy I get health conscious and work out more regularly and all that crap because I'm no longer looking good for just me ha.

When I'm single I tend to get lazier and have this "fuck you" attitude.

Warped or what!

5/31/2008 12:46:24 PM

Pretty much the reason to marry Pillar Sanders

5/31/2008 12:49:07 PM

Fat doods always have erection problems. Girl I worked with, her husband gained like 150 pounds (he looks like Grimice from Mcdonalds). I fucked her a few times, and she always wanted me to be on top - because that was no longer an option. Due to his obesity - he could never get a solid hard on. I could always tell when she had fucked the goo - as she was always rubbing her wrists the next day (trying to jerk him hard- yet all he needed to do was stop drinking gravey from the can).



Why anyone would put up with such bullshit is beyond me. She said he was "depressed" yet refused to get any help with it.

5/31/2008 1:05:06 PM

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"okay, WITHOUT plastic surgery"

my ex's mom was like 50 and smokin.. no plastic surgery

5/31/2008 1:05:50 PM

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" dont think that if they've developed healthy eating habits by their mid-20s that they're likely to change when married. "

People change all the time.

I used to eat healthy things like salads, fruit salsa that I made myself, etc. and went to the gym 6 days a week for an hour on top of sports practice.

Now all I eat is junk food, I don't have time for the gym and I'm still under weight.

One day I'd like to be able to afford more fruits and vegetables and a gym membership.

5/31/2008 1:12:55 PM

i wish i wasnt so picky

5/31/2008 1:35:26 PM

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"make sure their moms are hot and skinny.. thats gotta help your chances of them being hot and skinny when theyre old too"

Most of the time when you see a pic of a hot girl and her mom....the mom just looks busted. That's what you have to look forward to I guess.

5/31/2008 1:44:14 PM

a lot of times hot chicks have fat mothers and the reason they are hot is that they dont want to be fat like their mothers...or maybe thats just alamance county

5/31/2008 1:45:30 PM

If your spouse gains weight, you cannot make them lose it. That is something that they have to do because they want to. And if you constantly harp on them about their weight, it can actually make things worse. Trust me, they are completely aware of the weight that they are gaining. Sometimes it is just difficult to break the cycle. The best thing that you can do is lead a healthy lifestyle yourself and encourage good habits.

When you marry, you're in it for the long haul.

In the years that we have been together, my husband never said a word to me about the weight that I gained. And boy did I gain. I actually love him all the more for never saying a word to me. He still loved and supported me no matter what. I think that had he not, it would have broken my heart and I may not have had the self esteem and self interest that it took for me to finally get off my butt and do something about my weight. Now I am the same person that I have always been, but more than fifty pounds lighter.

5/31/2008 2:21:36 PM

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"the mom just looks busted. That's what you have to look forward to I guess."

it's the other way around for some people. zeitgiests mom is hot and so is her little sister, but she is not so much.

5/31/2008 2:24:39 PM