I'm getting fucked by my grad school on housing

should I:

1) Try to find my own place and end up spending lots of monies on a tiny apartment in Manhattan.

2) Live in a community center in Brooklyn with two of my friends and have to commute an hour to work/school every day by train. I'd save some money buy live in the ghetto far away. Also, this would alienate my girlfriend further.

3) Move to Columbus, Ohio with my girlfriend while she attends medical school, thus saving my relationship and lots and lots of money. I would do graduate school online and try to get hands-on work in media locally (perhaps at OSU's TV station or one of their two radio stations).

Please vote. After all, my life is in your hands.

7/15/2008 8:41:34 PM

cee

7/15/2008 8:42:30 PM

3. whatever is cheapest.

7/15/2008 8:42:34 PM

just go fishing

7/15/2008 8:42:48 PM

grad school in what?

probably #3

p.s. i just got my tuition waiver signed today

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:43 PM. Reason : woman you like that makes nice money trumphs a masters in communication]

7/15/2008 8:42:52 PM

my graduate degree will be in Media Studies from The New School

their online education program is becoming the model for the nation

7/15/2008 8:43:40 PM

3

7/15/2008 8:43:51 PM

well hell, go that route

7/15/2008 8:44:07 PM

3 for sure

7/15/2008 8:44:29 PM

1

7/15/2008 8:45:44 PM

my vote is just go fuck yourself.

7/15/2008 8:46:40 PM

Only move if you love your girlfriend

I mean love love

Because there's a million girls out there

but you only get shot at your 20's

Don't fuck it up

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:47 PM. Reason : x]

7/15/2008 8:47:09 PM

How hot is said girl?

7/15/2008 8:47:10 PM

I have a job in NYC that I don't quite love and it isn't paying me gobs of money, but I'm employed.

I suppose at a later point I could move out here for just a semester or summer or something for an internship and to interact with people at my school. I really do want to take courses face to face at the school because it is an excellent school.

But I love my girlfriend and she is very hurt that I chose to move away from her without coming to some consensus with her. She feels that I was breaking up with her by doing so.

Also, I'm afraid of the expense that I'll be incurring here.

7/15/2008 8:47:17 PM

4) get a degree in a major that is worth a fuck

7/15/2008 8:47:42 PM

3

7/15/2008 8:47:43 PM

#3, that sounds really like your best option.

No need to ruin your financial and personal life entirely to pursue your education.

7/15/2008 8:48:22 PM

she's really hot and we've been together for almost two years now, but we've been involved with each other in various forms for nearly 8 years

7/15/2008 8:48:58 PM

various forms

7/15/2008 8:49:33 PM

various forms

7/15/2008 8:49:59 PM

i would say its foolish to alienate this girl if you really want to be with her....3

also, how much do you enjoy NYC? would you rather live in Ohio?
personally I want to live as many places as possible.
and don't go 3, to save the relationship.
it is your life.

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:57 PM. Reason : ]

7/15/2008 8:50:26 PM

we've been lovers, care-takers, awkward acquaintances and sworn enemies at various points in our lives

you see, I'm a crazy person and her life is very hard

7/15/2008 8:50:30 PM

depends on what you're ready for

i'd go with 3

only if it's a good relationship

i'd rather do 2 than 1 though


[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:52 PM. Reason : brotherhood of crazy, heil!]

7/15/2008 8:50:58 PM

werd

7/15/2008 8:51:18 PM

Me, I'd never plan my life around a girl

but thats me

I've never been in love

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:51 PM. Reason : x]

7/15/2008 8:51:45 PM

i changed my answer. i think you should do 1, 2. or whatever will make you happiest

but when i read about needing to move to ohio to "save" your relationship AND that your gf is going to be in grad school, i had a few thoughts

1. "saving" your relationship isn't really that good of a reason to move
2. graduate school really really takes a toll on relationships even if you ARE living in close proximity (would you be living with her?? this might make it even crazier). i mean your relationship could already be strained by grad school like moving might not necessarily "save" it. it might even complicate things

i don't know. tough choice. c looked the best from the start until i thought about it. now i see why you turned to tww.

EDIT: OMG now that i read your post about her thinking that you moving away from her is essentially breaking up with her, i say stay in NYC for sure. sorry, gf.

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:53 PM. Reason : .]

7/15/2008 8:51:50 PM

NYC

7/15/2008 8:52:06 PM

And its FUCKING OHIO.

Fuck that. Especially if she plans on staying there after med school. One of the worst states in the country.

7/15/2008 8:54:56 PM

Quote :

"1) Try to find my own place and end up spending lots of monies on a tiny apartment in Manhattan."

7/15/2008 8:55:12 PM

i just don't want anything to do with NYC, so it'd be an easy decision for me

7/15/2008 8:55:21 PM

Number 1.

it's not like you can't find another girl in Manhattan...

7/15/2008 8:56:20 PM

^^ That's kind of my view as well. Put up with ridiculously inflated cost of living, or stay with a loved one and do grad school online in what is likely a much cheaper area.

I mean, if your relationship is a relationship by name only at this point, stay in NYC, but otherwise I'd move to ohio.

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:58 PM. Reason : ^]

7/15/2008 8:57:02 PM

but can he find another girl who will be willing to maintain the relationship in various forms????

7/15/2008 8:57:17 PM

dude, sounds like you're pretty keen on option 3... go for that. fuck a long-distance relationship, and fuck living in a 'community center'

7/15/2008 8:58:13 PM

3.

It's a hell of a lot cheaper to live in Ohio.

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 8:59 PM. Reason : .]

7/15/2008 8:58:51 PM

3 sounds easiest, especially if it's a good program

7/15/2008 9:00:31 PM

Quote :

"Also, this would alienate my girlfriend further."

Sounds like this one is already shaky.

Take her out of the equation. Also NY > Ohio.

I guess I have always just wanted to live in Manhattan for a while.

7/15/2008 9:05:49 PM

stay in NYC, still do the online program, hit up A718 and post results here

7/15/2008 9:11:04 PM

you should just drop out and live off the land....


PS

Also, since I believe your major will set you up to be poor forever, you might want to go with the gf since she is obviously going to be the bread winner....

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 9:12 PM. Reason : w]

7/15/2008 9:11:25 PM

Peak oil is going to come and the only Americans left are going to be the Amish. So option 3 may be best. Chances for joining the Amish are higher.

7/15/2008 9:36:44 PM

Is your gf the "one"

if yes then 3 if no then 2

7/15/2008 9:38:09 PM

Quote :

"Also, since I believe your major will set you up to be poor forever, you might want to go with the gf since she is obviously going to be the bread winner...."

thats what i was thinking

7/15/2008 9:38:12 PM

DALE

7/15/2008 9:40:13 PM

things are only shaky with the gf because I chose NYC over her

if I moved with her it would demonstrate my commitment which is all she really wants from me

NYC is dirty, noisy and full of assholes
with that said, I find it intriguing... but god damn will it make you poor
I would like to come back here for internships and other experience - I just don't want to get trapped in the working class NYC

I work for a catering company and deliver all of the time to companies that I should be working for rather than schlepping lunch to - I just need to get some more experience. I kind of feel that if I stay here I will be too poor to afford an internship. Maybe in a more affordable situation I'll be able to save enough to get a good internship for a semester and I'm sure my gf would be willing to do long distance on mutual terms for my benefit, I just never talked this over with her.

7/15/2008 9:45:33 PM

i dont know if i could ever live here for less than 1k a week. its a very very hard place to live, i don't envy a lot of people here. it can be very hard to get ahead

7/15/2008 9:49:40 PM

sound like you already made your decision dude

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 9:50 PM. Reason : wtf is a community center? like cots in a ghetto ymca gym or the projects or what?]

7/15/2008 9:49:43 PM

2) an hour commute is not unusual for NY, and if you neglect your schooling for your GF, you're always going to resent her.

7/15/2008 9:52:27 PM

living in NYC is like withdrawing money out of an ATM just to set it on fire.

7/15/2008 9:52:57 PM

if its fuckin you, fuck it back.

7/15/2008 9:53:00 PM

You could always go to Ohio with her now. Then once she finishes med school, y'all move to NYC while she works and you finish grad school. With her income and yours combined, you could afford to live in Manhattan, and your housing may even be straightened out by then.

Also, what kind of shitty grad school don't take care of their students housing?! I work for one of the NCSU departments and see a lot of their grad students, and they are all well taken care of when it comes to living expenses (IN THAT DEPT., I will not blanket that to all of NCSU)

[Edited on July 15, 2008 at 9:58 PM. Reason : ]

7/15/2008 9:58:25 PM