is that the same as telling her she used to be fat?

10/12/2009 1:31:17 AM

Depends on how much weight she lost. If she hasn't lost much or doesn't seem to have made a solid effort to lose weight, I wouldn't mention anything. If she has lost an apparent amount of weight, then she has most likely agreed with herself that she was in fact fat and made the effort to lose weight. In the first situation you might be an asshole to mention weight loss, in the second you would be an astute gentleman. Women are fucking odd.

10/12/2009 1:35:51 AM

i think its all about the approach. you could say "wow you look good" and give her the once over, especially if you havent seen her in a while. but saying "jesus, how did you get rid of all that fat" is probably not a great idea.

10/12/2009 1:38:49 AM

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"Women are fucking odd."

10/12/2009 1:41:51 AM

yea

never mention weight in any shape or form


be subtle. and then bam... fingers in the pussy

10/12/2009 1:41:56 AM

imo I don't see how someone could be upset if you told them that it looks like they lost weight. Unless, that is, they don't want to lose weight.

Its more of an observation to me. Kind of like, "oh I see you got a haircut, it looks nice." I've never been offended when someone said this to me

[Edited on October 12, 2009 at 1:46 AM. Reason : grammar]

10/12/2009 1:45:20 AM

Does she have cancer or something?

10/12/2009 1:48:47 AM

No if a girl hears that its a good thing. she would be happy.

i make no engrish sense me tired.

10/12/2009 1:51:45 AM

i, too, saw the commercial for Men of a Certain Age while watching this baseball game

10/12/2009 1:52:07 AM

this thread inspired by ray romano

but i usually dont say anything unless its extremely noticeable

i know if someone randomly asks me if i lost weight my first instinct is: "are you saying i was fat?"

course thats more for laughs but regardless

10/12/2009 1:54:12 AM

In general, you should never comment on a woman's weight loss or gain.

It ain't your business.

10/12/2009 2:02:58 AM

women shouldn't take everything so personal, it's just a comment based on an observation

10/12/2009 2:05:16 AM

We're not like "OMG, are you saying I was fat! I'm so upset!"

It's more, "Wow, it's really none of your business, and I'm tired of my body being up for discussion or comment."

10/12/2009 2:09:41 AM

dang, didnt realize it was that harsh

glad i erred in the right

10/12/2009 2:10:48 AM

I would prob say this to both men or women, but whatever, I respect your position

10/12/2009 2:11:47 AM

what if a girl gets a boob job? are you allowed to comment on her titties being bigger?

10/12/2009 2:16:11 AM

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"It ain't your business."

Again:

Quote :

"Women are fucking odd."

Sorry, Bridget.

10/12/2009 2:16:47 AM

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"be subtle. and then bam... fingers in the pussy"

lol, i thought it was gummy worms.

10/12/2009 6:44:26 AM

Gummy worms?

10/12/2009 6:58:26 AM

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"imo I don't see how someone could be upset if you told them that it looks like they lost weight. Unless, that is, they don't want to lose weight. Its more of an observation to me. Kind of like, "oh I see you got a haircut, it looks nice." I've never been offended when someone said this to me"

as weird as it sounds, i really hate it when people say shit like this to me (although i guess this doesn't really apply, as i'm not a girl) because i never wanted people to know i was fat to begin with.

10/12/2009 7:14:25 AM

You won't get away with something like that in the South. We're not some cold yankee bastards who won't ever talk to you.

10/12/2009 7:15:41 AM

if she brings it up first it's ok, usually......

or it could just be a trap. either or

10/12/2009 7:19:20 AM

y'all need to get to know some girls that aren't batshit insane

10/12/2009 7:35:25 AM

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"although i guess this doesn't really apply, as i'm not a girl"

for the purpose of this thread, i think you're close enough

10/12/2009 7:59:49 AM

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"Women are fucking odd."

If I compliment a woman and she gets upset I'll call her out for acting stupid. Usually this works. Both sexes needed it pointed out to them when they're acting childish.

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"Wow, it's really none of your business, and I'm tired of my body being up for discussion or comment."

You may be, but women working hard to get in shape and improve their self image are not tired of hearing it. Quit giving out crap advice based on your own insecurities.

10/12/2009 8:19:09 AM

I love when people tell me I look like I've lost weight. If I'm working hard, then it's nice when people take notice.

10/12/2009 8:31:12 AM

^ that is truth

10/12/2009 8:35:13 AM

what if a guy says it and you haven't lost any weight? wat then?

10/12/2009 8:36:56 AM

^

10/12/2009 8:37:38 AM

Then I must be wearing an outfit that's slimming. I'll take the compliment no matter what


(as long as it's genuine that is)

10/12/2009 8:43:25 AM

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"It's more, "Wow, it's really none of your business, and I'm tired of my body being up for discussion or comment.""

If you don't want your body/looks/etc to up for discussion/comment:

- quit wearing revealing and/or tight clothes
- lay off the makeup
- chill with the shoes that make you look taller/slimmer legs/etc
- no more fancy hair, coloring, etc.


If you're flaunting it, you're asking to be looked at and therefore discussed.

10/12/2009 8:49:20 AM

telling her she gained weight is also bad

10/12/2009 8:50:37 AM

LunaK has the right idea

10/12/2009 8:56:39 AM

that's crazy....if someone ever says it looks like I've lost weight I get totally flattered....

10/12/2009 9:40:41 AM

i've never been offended by someone telling me i look like i lost weight...even if i haven't, i just assume it means that the outfit i have on makes me look more slender.

now the other way around...NEVER EVER ask anyone if they are preggers.

10/12/2009 9:47:49 AM

bring on the compliments!

10/12/2009 9:50:55 AM

everything said here by girls is a fucking lie


dont fall into their trap

10/12/2009 10:02:29 AM

definitely say this.

its a test to see if she's a bitch or not.

95% of women fail

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

10/12/2009 10:07:31 AM

Tell her you've seen her drinking 1%. Is that 'cause she thinks she's fat ? 'Cause she's not. She could be drinking whole milk if she wanted to.

10/12/2009 10:17:55 AM

lame

10/12/2009 10:42:26 AM

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"y'all need to get to know some girls that aren't batshit insane"

i tell myself this every day

10/12/2009 11:47:26 AM

Do guys even notice weight fluctuations? I'd venture to say that most men are oblivious to weight loss/gain in women.

10/12/2009 11:51:47 AM

^i am oblivious, so i never say anything, unless its blatantly obvious. this is just one of those compliments i never use because to me it feels like im saying "hey, you used to be fat". Instead i'll say "hey, you're looking good" or some other such generic statement.

10/12/2009 11:56:08 AM

^^

Pretty much the first thing I notice. But I'm picky as hell when it comes to girls and weight. Weight can be hidden so easily and sometimes you can think a girl is bigger, but she might have a great body. You have to take everything into account...size of hips, arm fat, neck fat, booty, legs, etc., when trying to figure out how much a girl weighs and whether or not she has lost any weight recently.

I feel like I've become very good at this...but sometimes a fatty will still sneak by my weight-radar.

10/12/2009 12:34:29 PM

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"JCASHFAN: You may be, but women working hard to get in shape and improve their self image are not tired of hearing it. Quit giving out crap advice based on your own insecurities."

You're right. All the people making comments are just trying to help women improve their self-image, like this guy:

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"wdprice3: If you don't want your body/looks/etc to up for discussion/comment: - quit wearing revealing and/or tight clothes - lay off the makeup - chill with the shoes that make you look taller/slimmer legs/etc - no more fancy hair, coloring, etc. If you're flaunting it, you're asking to be looked at and therefore discussed."

10/12/2009 2:05:37 PM

^^I played the "guess my weight" game a few days ago and no one came close to getting it right. one of the contestants was a good friend so I knew he wasn't trying to flatter me.

but yeah, I'd like to see if you could guess correctly.

10/12/2009 2:14:46 PM

People have a hard time guessing weight for athletic women.

10/12/2009 2:31:29 PM

I'm from the 5'7", 115 school of preference, so yeah, it throws you off a bit when the girl you're digging is 140+

I've only banged one girl that weighed more than me, when I was on an adderral/coke binge and was sub 150 when I slammed this big bitch I met at Sammy's

10/12/2009 2:34:55 PM

I say that it depends. The fatter the girl was, the more likely she'll take your comment about her lost weight as a compliment.

10/12/2009 3:20:03 PM

women on here might have better advice if they've actually heard that statement from someone

10/12/2009 3:21:02 PM