User not logged in - login - register
Home Calendar Books School Tool Photo Gallery Message Boards Users Statistics Advertise Site Info
go to bottom | |
 Message Boards » » calling someone over and over and over again Page [1]  
jackleg
All American
170962 Posts
user info
edit post

how many times is too many when it comes to calling someone over and over?

i stopped talking to someone (with what i feel to be good reason) a few years ago. may or may not have even been anything they did, may have just been something i needed to do at the time.

that part isn't important. the point is that for about a month now, it seems like every time i look at my phone, i have multiple missed calls from them./... and there was only ever one message one time saying "hey gimme a call sometime". if they had something important to say, they'd say it on the message. if anything, this shows that they know they are invading my space with their calls. lately its even turned to quick text messages... "hey... call me".

shit like this makes me feel REALLY uncomfortable for some reason - and before someone asks, it's NOT a dating/sex thing, which makes it even MORE weird to me. also its no one on tww, i dont give out my number on tww ok

or am i looking at this all wrong, and i'm the crazy one?

2/23/2010 7:24:07 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

i figure if its important they'll leave a message (so i agree with you - kinda weird)

that said

i call my boyfriend over and over when he won't answer sometimes just to be annoying. but i'm allowed to be annoying from time to time. its in our relationship manual.

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:25 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:25:32 PM

ThatGoodLock
All American
5697 Posts
user info
edit post

as a matter of principle if someone calls over and over i will not pick up in hopes that they will leave a message and realize it's not important

usually this person is my mother

2/23/2010 7:26:53 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

the other day someone called me over and over from an unknown number w/o leaving a message

finally i answered

it was my boyfriend calling from jail

2/23/2010 7:28:05 PM

Chop
All American
6271 Posts
user info
edit post

call me crazy, but uh, have you thought about calling them back?

2/23/2010 7:28:20 PM

jackleg
All American
170962 Posts
user info
edit post

yeah boyfriends and girlfriends have been known to do that... that is acceptable in some cases, if both sides are ok with it

2/23/2010 7:28:42 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

^^ but thats the thing if you are calling ME why should i waste MY time calling you back. just leave a freaking message. i don't wanna get stuck in a lets catch up what have you been doing for the past 5 years ready go type convo.

that is why you screen.

^ well he isn't ok with it so i try to limit it to once a year. the other week when my toilet overflowed and he was napping i called like 37 times and left lots of messages that were like "i'm having a crisis where ARE you" and then he was MIA for like 5 hours and i called a lot and then i was mad

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:29 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:29:09 PM

jackleg
All American
170962 Posts
user info
edit post

have i thought about calling them back?

well yeah they've almost harassed me into calling them back, but i think youre missing the part where i say that i stopped talking to them years ago, and with damned good reason.

all a phone call would do is tell them something they already know

2/23/2010 7:30:31 PM

Gzusfrk
All American
2988 Posts
user info
edit post

Maybe it's news he doesn't want to share via text message or voicemail? Like, "so and so we both know died."

2/23/2010 7:30:36 PM

twoozles
All American
20735 Posts
user info
edit post

Quote :
"it was my boyfriend calling from jail"


uh what?

2/23/2010 7:31:01 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

true story.

but i figure even if it was something like death after the 500th time calling they'd leave a message

i'd be werided out if someone (not family) that i hadn't spoken to in like several years just started calling me a lot out of the blue

i'm with jleg

p.s. jleg: tried to get gunzz to bump the target thread today so you could stalk me but didn't happen in time. i miss our target stalkings

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:33 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:32:29 PM

poopface
All American
29367 Posts
user info
edit post

you're over and over and over again!

2/23/2010 7:33:11 PM

arcgreek
All American
26690 Posts
user info
edit post

atleast it isn't a kid or std.

Was the relationship with this person drug related?

2/23/2010 7:34:38 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

if it was drug related maybe this person is trying to get their life together and needs a role model

2/23/2010 7:37:38 PM

Chop
All American
6271 Posts
user info
edit post

Quote :
" i think youre missing the part where i say that i stopped talking to them years ago, and with damned good reason."


fair enough. a quick 5 minute conversation might be enough to get them to stop calling, but I can understand your concern if you're trying to cut them out of your life altogether.

2/23/2010 7:38:56 PM

theDuke866
All American
52984 Posts
user info
edit post

Quote :
"as a matter of principle if someone calls over and over i will not pick up in hopes that they will leave a message and realize it's not important due to the fact that they are pissing me off"


My mom is a little bad about this, and I had a girlfriend who was TERRIBLE about this. I WILL NOT pick up the phone until they stop calling, and the more they call, the longer I'll wait for them to go without calling before I return the call.

2/23/2010 7:44:45 PM

twoozles
All American
20735 Posts
user info
edit post

if my mom calls me more than 3 or 4 times and i don't answer she has my sister call. then she starts freaking out thinking i'm dead and starts calling friends. yeah she's a bit much

2/23/2010 7:49:22 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

^^ oh well see this is why we could never date

i control the relationship so i will call whenever (and however many times) i damn well please

and you will answer

cause thats how i roll

but its ok we can work something out

^ geeeez. i'm probably the one like that in my family. not the freaking out part (well i do now since all that shit happened w/ my fam, but pre that i didn't). i just like to talk a lot and live alone so i annoy people.

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:50 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:49:51 PM

theDuke866
All American
52984 Posts
user info
edit post

hahaha, my mom just did this. I was about to call her back, but then she called again like 1 minute later. Oh well, now she'll have to wait.

2/23/2010 7:52:22 PM

petejames
All American
2237 Posts
user info
edit post

I typically ignore calls when its somebody calling just to talk and call back at my convenience and I know some friends back home that do this too, so when there is something important, they'll call once and I'll ignore and they'll call back to show that its important, in which case I'll answer or they'll know I can't answer. I do the same to them, it seems to be a pretty good system.

2/23/2010 7:55:01 PM

arcgreek
All American
26690 Posts
user info
edit post

I hate the drama that follows when you do call back or answer. The next call is like adding another layer of drama.

2/23/2010 7:55:26 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

^^^ ugh you totally ignored my flirtiness

^^ i just want them to leave a message if its important. that is all i ask.

^ seriously.

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:55 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:55:34 PM

EMCE
balls deep
89992 Posts
user info
edit post

sorry jackleg. I got the message now...

2/23/2010 7:56:56 PM

saps852
New Recruit
80068 Posts
user info
edit post

my rule is call them once

if no response, call them again and leave a vm

if no response then fuck 'em

Quote :
"i call my boyfriend over and over when he won't answer sometimes just to be annoying. but i'm allowed to be annoying from time to time. its in our relationship manual."


ya my rule doesnt apply to SO

I WILL CALL UNTIL YOU ANSWER WOMAN

lol

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 7:58 PM. Reason : .]

2/23/2010 7:57:14 PM

Chop
All American
6271 Posts
user info
edit post

i don't know, my phone never rings unless i forgot to pay a bill or someone has died. even my mom will go months without calling me. so i generally feel obligated to answer/call back/find out what the person on the other end wants.

2/23/2010 7:58:58 PM

theDuke866
All American
52984 Posts
user info
edit post

Sorry! I've always thought you were hot and smart...but you have a boyfriend.

2/23/2010 7:59:38 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

well i answer known numbers now because of that whole situation where i was drunk/tired/hungover and then my mom was in the hospital

and then a few months later i was drunk/passed out and my dad was in the hospital

kinda makes you feel shitty when you ignore those late night calls from your brother.

my B.

2/23/2010 8:00:21 PM

ambrosia1231
eeeeeeeeeevil
76471 Posts
user info
edit post

Quote :
"as a matter of principle if someone calls over and over i will not pick up in hopes that they will leave a message and realize it's not important

usually this person is my mother"


a

fucking

men

I have done a pretty good job at retraining my mother...considered where she used to be.
She used to call 3...5...8...11 times at 8/9am on saturday mornings. And be irate that I wasn't answering. Or call me repeatedly at work on both my cell (can ignore) and work line (can't).

And she used to call a cell. then the house. then a cell. send a few emails. call the house/cell/cell/husband cell (rarely, at least)/house...IF she left a message, it was "it's mom. call me." [NO]

Now she calls once, MAYBE twice, leaves a relevant message, and sends an email if necessary, that's actually informative.

I still have to use google voice to handle her behavior a little, but not NEARLY as much as I used to would have.

And yes, I did have to spell it out for her: "you pull this call-hang up-call immediately bullshit, and it's just that much longer that I don't answer or call back. When you do that, you tell me your call isn't important at all, and thank you "

Quote :
"i just want them to leave a message if its important. that is all i ask."

Just about everyone I know is at least good about that: sure, some of them leave messages like "chrissy, do you have one of my cookie sheets? I'm short of one!" (wtf is email? ), but when it comes to life or death or stuff on that level of importance, I think just about everyone in this world has enough sense to leave a message, even if it is "You need to call me ASAP. It is really superduper important."

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 8:03 PM. Reason : sdfg]

2/23/2010 8:01:49 PM

ScHpEnXeL
Suspended
32613 Posts
user info
edit post

god this shit drives me nuts. my aunt does this shit.. then she'll call my work cell. then she'll call my work line. i keep putting her in voicemail until she chills the fuck out.

[Edited on February 23, 2010 at 8:02 PM. Reason : also, why was he in jail kawaackle?]

2/23/2010 8:02:11 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

Quote :
"but when it comes to life or death or stuff on that level of importance, I think just about everyone in this world has enough sense to leave a message, even if it is "You need to call me ASAP. It is really superduper important.""


exactly.

^ failure to appear.

2/23/2010 8:07:49 PM

josephlava21
All American
2613 Posts
user info
edit post

This is why my voicemail says:" You have reached 919-555-1234,please leave a message "beep"". That way if someone calls me and I don't answer they can't be sure who's phone they actually dialed. Then if they keep calling I get some one to answer and say they have the wrong number.

2/23/2010 8:09:45 PM

khcadwal
All American
35165 Posts
user info
edit post

my voicemail says my first and last name

yet somehow the wakefield mcdonald's still calls it over and over and leaves messages for laquisha or laquanda or something

2/23/2010 8:15:21 PM

 Message Boards » Chit Chat » calling someone over and over and over again Page [1]  
go to top | |
Admin Options : move topic | lock topic

© 2025 by The Wolf Web - All Rights Reserved.
The material located at this site is not endorsed, sponsored or provided by or on behalf of North Carolina State University.
Powered by CrazyWeb v2.39 - our disclaimer.