Soooooooooooooo tl;dr but today I worked with this guy for the first time and let me tell you what he did in a list;

-Was super nosy
-Was super talkative
-Was flamboyantly gay
-Showed me pictures of every guy he's ever slept with including details
-Showed me a picture of HIS BARE FUCKING ASS
-Asked me about my sex life, like super intimate details
-Asked what my bf makes on his job, wtf?
-Made innuendos for everything
-Smacked my ass and side boob
-Asked what my bf's penis size was
-Talked about sex the whole fucking day -EW GROSS I JUST FUCKING MET YOU

I felt super uncomfortable and by the end I was just ignoring him but should I report him or just let it go? I mean HE'S GAY so it's not like he was hitting on me or anything but WTF DUDE. I don't want to get anyone fired OR stir up unnecessary issues but damn I felt like this was WAY inappropriate even for me!

Would you consider this another day on the job, a welcome distraction, or holy shitballs run for the hills?

4/28/2010 9:09:11 PM

lol he's probably straight and was just seeing what you'd put up with.

4/28/2010 9:11:13 PM

i would be uncomfortable working with Kiwi

4/28/2010 9:12:09 PM

why were you working with andy dick?

4/28/2010 9:12:31 PM

Man the fuck up (if that's possible for you) and tell him to knock the bullshit off. Just because you're gay too (I guess?), doesn't mean that you two are in some special club where you have to make sure EVERYONE knows about it. Tell him to grow the fuck up and stop being annoying.

4/28/2010 9:13:16 PM

lol I think I have a pretty accurate gaydar and this dude has the feminine body language, love for glee, knack for bursting out into gay song, and doesn't shut up about penis.

None of it really bothered me except the way too personal questions and the picture of his ass, IT CANNOT BE UNSEEN.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:15 PM. Reason : lol im a girl, k? and optimum i bet you're a normal gay! ]

4/28/2010 9:13:29 PM

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"I mean HE'S GAY so it's not like he was hitting on me or anything but WTF DUDE."

I mean, that's still a form of sexual harassment/abuse in the workplace.
He doesn't deserve any special consideration because he's a homosexual

4/28/2010 9:15:28 PM

holy shitballs run for the hills

4/28/2010 9:17:36 PM

^^ Exactly. If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:19 PM. Reason : FUUUUUUUUUUUU]

4/28/2010 9:19:00 PM

haha Yeah I hope I never see him again. I heard such good things about him too, I'll talk with a coworker I trust who knows him and see what's up.

Blegh. He held up this toy to mimic a boner and I was like, SERIOUSLY? I BARELY KNOW YOU AND THIS IS A WORK ENVIRONMENT.

4/28/2010 9:19:05 PM

Kiwi doesn't mind physical sexual harassment enough to report it, ITT.

4/28/2010 9:22:01 PM

She's probably making up most of this shit anyway.

4/28/2010 9:22:51 PM

Yeah, we all know Karen.

4/28/2010 9:24:46 PM

LOL Why would I lie about this shit?

It's not that I'm okay with the harassment, I just don't want to cause drama in the work place!

4/28/2010 9:26:03 PM

come on, you like the drama and attention. admit it.

4/28/2010 9:26:37 PM

well, as long as you don't want to cause drama in the workplace....

where do you work? I want to choke you. With my penis.

4/28/2010 9:26:43 PM

If that's true, then you have no respect for yourself. If it's not true, then you just enjoy making up shit and pretending to care.

WHICH IS IT

4/28/2010 9:26:50 PM

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

4/28/2010 9:28:07 PM

LOL This kind of attention is negative, silly.

Then when I report it they'll be like why didn't you tell him to stop and I'll be like "I'm a pussy and clam up and ignore things when bad stuffs is happening."

I mean obviously I have little self respect if I'd rather put up with it than make a lot of enemies lol.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:29 PM. Reason : I KNOW, IT'S AWFUL BUT WHAT DO I DO]

4/28/2010 9:28:49 PM

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"If he was straight, would you be ok with him smaking your ass and boobs? If so, I want to meet you and smack your ass and tits around, even though we don't know each other."

4/28/2010 9:29:51 PM

Gay dudes get all the girls...

4/28/2010 9:29:51 PM

Drama in the workplace? LOLOL

if you can put up with this ass then ^, and ^^

get fucking rid of him => no more weird ass shit

4/28/2010 9:30:03 PM

seriously kiwi... it's threads like these that make absolutely no sense... threads like these that make people think you're either an idiot, or you're full of shit.

4/28/2010 9:30:16 PM

^^^^It will still get him fired.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:31 PM. Reason : -]

4/28/2010 9:30:53 PM

Of course not, but I would definitely know he was hitting on me/crossing the line. Here I'm like, okay does he do this to everyone or what?

If a straight male did it I'd be just as afraid of stirring up enemies and shit as I am now, especially since I'm still new!

4/28/2010 9:31:08 PM

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"It's not that I'm okay with the harassment, I just don't want to cause drama in the work place!"

So, you'll continue to allow a person to ask about your bf's dick, show you pictures of his bare ass, as about your sex life and slap your ass and tits around, all so you don't make drama in the workplace?

Stop being a dumbass. The only way you'll make drama in the workplace is if infront of everyone, you told the guy off and told him to stop being an asshole. If you do shit in private and ask him to lay off, there will be no drama. If he continues, IN PRIVATE, talk to your boss about the situation.

No one else has to know about it, and you don't need to bring the issue out in front of everyone. It's all REALLY easy.

4/28/2010 9:32:00 PM

uhh....if there are people there that would defend this dumbass then you don't want to work there. Its only a matter of time before rape.

4/28/2010 9:33:19 PM

Yeah, I'll do that and see if it works. Though it usually never does.

4/28/2010 9:33:25 PM

was he at least hot as fuck?

4/28/2010 9:35:06 PM

No

4/28/2010 9:35:46 PM

I mean, you know that your boss pretty much HAS to intervene if you go to him about this right?
You know that he's lawfully bound to keeping your shit private, right?

In fact, one of the BIGGEST mistakes you can do in this situation is 1) not mention it to anyone and 2) not document it. The longer you let this drag on without saying anything (just hoping that you never work with this person again) the harder it's going to be in the future to substantiate any of your claims.

4/28/2010 9:35:48 PM

Oh I know. I'm trying to decide if I was just over reacting or if this shit is real because as it stands I don't want to work with him ever again. But as far as I know, everyone really likes him so I could say something and have it totally backfire on me which wouldn't be the first time I stood up to something only to have it shit on me has happened.

4/28/2010 9:37:58 PM

Talk to the guy right away. Best time to set the tone for a work relationship is early on. If that doesn't correct it, go to a higher up. No reason to tolerate inappropriate behavior regardless of the motive if it makes you uncomfortable. And butt pics are NOT OKAY for at least 3 weeks. WTF was this guy thinking?

4/28/2010 9:38:21 PM

If you want to avoid hurting his feelings, just say this:

"You seem like a really nice person, but can you stop slapping my boobs and butt. Can you be a little bit more professional and not show me inappropriate pictures and ask me intimate questions about my personal life. Maybe when we know each other a bit better, I won't have a problem with that type of stuff."

If that doesn't work, then go to your boss, where it WILL work. Your boss shouldn't be angry with you. No worker should be made uncomfortable in the workplace by any other employee. You really aren't putting your job at risk, and your complaint isn't unreasonable by any stretch of the imagination. If you get that feeling from your boss, then you should start looking for a new job.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:39 PM. Reason : .]

4/28/2010 9:39:38 PM

Yeah I need to talk to HIM first. Problem is I'm a puss and now don't even want to see him. When shit like that happens I seriously ball up and keep everything to myself until it's over and I can think again. It's A HORRIBLE response but I do it anyway.

N

4/28/2010 9:40:31 PM

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"Would you be uncomfortable?"

in the back of a Volkswagen ?

4/28/2010 9:40:48 PM

Well, I know that if a subordinate of mine came forward about sexual harassment in the workplace...


I would be scared shitless NOT to do anything.
I would DEFINITELY be scared shitless to retaliate against my subordinate for coming forward. That's some serious shit that can land you in jail...

4/28/2010 9:42:32 PM

^ Win.

4/28/2010 9:42:43 PM

I think you need to adjust your carat, sir

4/28/2010 9:43:18 PM

Yeah question is, is it appropriate to go right to the superior if I am uncomfortable with the coworker or should I at least try to hash it out first?

I never want to see the dude or his hairy ass again.

4/28/2010 9:43:38 PM

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"But as far as I know, everyone really likes him so I could say something and have it totally backfire on me which wouldn't be the first time I stood up to something only to have it shit on me has happened."

The only way it would backfire on you is if:

A) Your boss mentioned it. In which case, go above his head and tell his boss what he did. If they do nothing, sue the company and get another job. Even if your boss likes him, I'll be you that he'll be taken aback by your complaint, and not think much of him.

B) You open your big fucking pie hole and tell them what happened. Even if they ask you, it's none of their fucking business. Lie to them and tell them "I don't know." It really is that easy. This will depend on you to not be a fucking gossip.

4/28/2010 9:44:14 PM

Seriously, record the "incident" while it is fresh in your mind and keep a record of inappropriateness in case it is going to be a consistent occurrence and you have to go to your supervisor. For now, see what happens. Some people behave inappropriately when nervous.

4/28/2010 9:45:11 PM

Yep. Get that shit off of your plate, and onto someone else. It shouldn't be your problem to deal with in the first place.

The dude that was acting inappropriately knew that shit wasn't cool to do in the workplace.

4/28/2010 9:45:57 PM

I can not be a gossip with some serious shit. I'm pretty personal about my own shit so that won't be a problem.

[Edited on April 28, 2010 at 9:46 PM. Reason : ^Yeah he was like "sorry all I can talk about is sex" I rolled my eyes]

4/28/2010 9:46:09 PM

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"Yeah question is, is it appropriate to go right to the superior if I am uncomfortable with the coworker or should I at least try to hash it out first?"

If you don't talk to him first, your boss will ask you if you did. If you say no, then what will probably happen is your boss will give him a talking to. If you did talk to him and you tell him you did. He'll probably get more than a talking to. He might end up fired, suspended without pay and be forced to attend some training session.

Sexual harassment in the workplace is a very serious thing. Him sliding his dick between another dude's butt cheeks doesn't excuse his behavior.

4/28/2010 9:47:00 PM

Luckily you already have a written record of the incident. Seriously it is not necessary to go to this douche at all. Go to your boss.

4/28/2010 9:47:02 PM

How is your sex life? Good I trust?

4/28/2010 9:47:12 PM

^He asked that too.

At first it was funny then when I noticed it doesn't stop I turned into a clam. I don't want my boss going to him and the guy saying WELL SHE WAS LAUGHING/LOOKING AT ME/IN THE SAME ROOM so I thought it was fine! Fuckity fuck.

4/28/2010 9:49:10 PM

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"I don't want my boss going to him and the guy saying WELL SHE WAS LAUGHING/LOOKING AT ME/IN THE SAME ROOM so I thought it was fine!"

Yeah, by that logic.... when a man rapes a woman, and her vagina gets moist (physiological response), it means that she enjoyed it... right?

4/28/2010 9:51:20 PM

set em up

4/28/2010 9:51:49 PM